Late Night TV host Jimmy Kimmel encouraged his viewers to film their children getting early Christmas presents that they would surely hate. The result is a collection of children acting badly: bursting into tears, saying they hate their parents, lecturing them on proper gift giving protocol, etc. It’s funny and also a great illustration of the gift-giving rules that Theodore Caplow meticulously lists in his article, Rule Enforcement Without Visible Means: Christmas Gift Giving in Middletown (pdf) (btw: this is the very first article I assign in Soc101).
(UPDATE: I was quoted briefly on this phenomenon in a New York Times story on the prank.)
In a number of cases, the gift is considered bad because the recipient is a boy and the gift is for a girl. One boy, for example, gets a Hello Kitty gift, another gets a pop star-themed coloring book. The boys’ reaction at being presented with a girls’ gift reveals their internalization of androcentrism, the idea that masculinity is superior to femininity. They express both disgust and, in some cases I think, fear at being poisoned by contact — especially such personal contact as “I got this for you” — with girlness.
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Lisa Wade, PhD is an Associate Professor at Tulane University. She is the author of American Hookup, a book about college sexual culture; a textbook about gender; and a forthcoming introductory text: Terrible Magnificent Sociology. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram.
Comments 61
Anonymous — December 18, 2011
How is this cruelty "funny?"
Larrycharleswilson — December 18, 2011
My grandson loves "Hello Kitty" Also, I must agree with Miss_Led...thinking this sort of thing is funny is ridiculous.
Char — December 18, 2011
This isn't funny; it's bullying (with a side of sexism)
Guest — December 18, 2011
I don't think it's funny either. Rather an example of adultism. It's not as cruel as the "I ate all your Halloween-candy-prank" Jimmy Kimmel asked parents to play on their kids, but still very mean. Apart from that, the girls at about 1:36 seem just as upset about getting boy's things as the boy is about getting girl's things. So that can't really count as an example of androcentrism.
Aeon Blue — December 18, 2011
Watching the boy at 4:05 cry in dismay and disbelief at his ponies made me realize that there is probably such a thing as "too young to be a brony." Those ponies are highly valued by many adult men right now and are, if not symbols of the outright rejection of gender boundaries, at least symbols of these men's defiance against them. But to rebel, you have to have first been indoctrinated. This boy, at an age where indoctrination is experienced most intensely, is probably not capable of such transgression because gender lines are still settling into place for him. In about ten years, maybe he can begin appreciating the wonderfulness that is Twilight Sparkle. ;)
Jennifer — December 18, 2011
I didn't find this or his Halloween thing urging parents to say they ate all their kids' candy funny. It's mean. These are real kids, who could really be embarrassed by these thoughtless videos. With respect to the boys' "internalization of androcentrism"--this isn't a test of that, it's a reinforcement of it because the parent is deliberately trying to humiliate the kid and the kid knows it. The choice of the gender nonconforming toy as a horrible gift is a statement about the parents' androcentrism more than the kids.' Ugh.
StrngeFruit — December 18, 2011
Wow....these kids' reactions speak to some really bad parenting skills...
e h — December 18, 2011
Normally I agree with a lot of the commenters here but this time, calling this "cruel" is just too much. Different people have different senses of humor, and there is no abuse going on. These parents are playing a practical joke on their kids, and there is nothing wrong with that.
Anonymous — December 18, 2011
I thought this one WAS funny, honestly. The Halloween videos seemed pretty cruel, because watching kids throwing tantrums isn't funny to me, and mocking them will upset them more. It was also about taking something away from the kids that they already owned. Aside from the boy who got the hello kitty shirt and the girl who got the onion, these kids seemed annoyed and confused, but not distraught. The girl who got the banana was downright hilarious. The video regarding the hello kitty shirt was bothersome for both reasons though: it seemed cruel to laugh at a kid throwing a tantrum, and he's throwing a tantrum because he got something with a pink cat on it.
Mae Spires — December 18, 2011
I'm disturbed by the fact that the little girl with the pink bow looks like she's wearing a full face of makeup. She looks like she's only 7 or 8.
Anonymous — December 19, 2011
but most importantly.. most of these kids are brats..
(not all) but most
especially that kid carrying on about the hello kitty shirt. 'i hate you all.'? how about you get nothing at all next year.
Emma — December 19, 2011
Could a warning be added to the title or intro re the swearing at the end? I was watching this with my kids nearby and considered calling them over to watch as I thought they may find it funny and the offensive language was not expected.
Guest — December 19, 2011
I'm so glad Sociological Images commented on the kids throwing fits over getting gifts that are functional but insulting to their senses of masculinity and femininity. It was what stuck out most to me while watching it (oh, and the fact that some of those kids got a little out of hand!)
I think it is a pretty hilarious prank.
Helena — December 20, 2011
I'm sure I'd feel a bit miserable too if I was in these kids' position but come on, this is not abuse. I don't think these parents have ruined their kids' lives or Christmas by playing a little prank on them. However, having horrible manners is going to affect their lives and do them harm in the future...
katya — December 20, 2011
There's a difference between getting a rotten banana or a half-eaten sandwich or a broken toy and getting a totally functional gift that you happen not to like. I used to get awful presents from my grandmother--age-inappropriate, never to my taste--and I smiled and said thank you and did not complain in the hearing of the giver. Ever. The proper reaction to a banana as a gift (assuming the giver is not actually suffering from dementia) is to laugh and enjoy the joke. A kid throwing a tantrum because he got Hello Kitty stuff is a problem--both because it means he's already learning that feminine = inferior and because he has no manners.
Dara Grey — December 20, 2011
I thought this was going to be commentary about how kids understand the "rules" of gift-giving generally and a fascinating discussion of what makes a gift "good" vs "bad" or even just inappropriate vs. inappropriate. Instead it slid straight into the fish-barrel of androcentrism. Disappointing!
Reasons for Future Therapy | — December 20, 2011
[...] tendency with analyzing media, particularly that which is blared at girls/kids, I was drawn to this particular post about gift giving. Basically, Jimmy Kimmel asked his viewers to give their children gifts they knew would not be [...]
eduardo — December 20, 2011
It’s incredible how entitled and disrespectful some of those kids are. I wouldn’t dare to speak to my parents like that.
none — December 20, 2011
My father was terribly emotionally abusive. When I was a kid, he thought it would be a funny prank to wake my sister and I up in the morning by telling us our bunk bed was going to collapse and we had to get out of it right away. We were really confused and when my sister figured out we were being tricked, she burst into tears. You know why? Because we did not trust him, and this joke was not funny, it was weird, it was him being mean, as he was always being mean. And of course his standard response was, "Oh come on, it's just a little joke."
That's what I think of when I look at this video.