I recently watched a reading of a play, New Jerusalem, with a cast of five men and two women. One woman was a love interest, the other was an emotional, screechy brat. By the end of the play I was so tired of the stereotype, I just wanted the play to end.
Thanks to Kristin, Christine, Amanda, Dolores R., Dmitriy T.M., and Nathan Meltz (whose awesome artwork we’ve previously featured), I am now aware that, coincidentally, this is the week that the California Milk Processor Board decided to roll out its new ad campaign. The campaign suggests that milk can save men from their cyclically bitchy girlfriends and wives. Milk, the claim is, helps alleviate the symptoms of PMS (but see this take down). And gawd knows there is nothing more annoying than an emotional, screechy, bitchy brat of a woman. Their website, Everything I Do is Wrong, asks “Are you a man living with PMS?” It links likelihood of PMS with the availability of chocolate, silver, and gold:
Tracks the “Global PMS Level”:
It suggests that women irrationally punish men for not knowing answers to trivial questions:
And purports to show men how to enhance their apologies with cheesy imagery and self-flagellation:
It’s overall a nasty soup of derogatory ideas about women and how unbelievably annoying they are to live with. Though, as Christine wrote, it’s also…
…sexist in the way that they stereotype men as ineffective communicators, who are terrified of emotional women and the “feminine mystique” of menstruation because they (obviously) lack the faculties with which to properly negotiate any disagreements they might have with the women in their lives.
Here are some of the more delightful print ads:
The stereotype is ubiquitous. You can also find it at The Daily Cramp, a website sent in by Janine P. that says it will track your woman’s menstrual cycle and let you know when you can expect her to act crazy:
There’s also an app with the same gimmick.
And it’s been around for a long time. This vintage ad for Midol, sent in by Jillian Y. and Lexi A.-L., tells women to medicate themselves on behalf of their “guy,” so they can be “good to be around, any day of the month”:
The problem with this stereotype is that it encourages people to see women as periodically irrational and also more generally dismiss-able. It allows us to conflate screechiness and bitchiness with being female.
The milk board’s commentary on the negative response has been, essentially, “Aw come on, it’s all in good fun! Can’t you take a joke!” I get, milk board, that this is humorous. I totally get that. It’s also an offensive stereotype. The two aren’t mutually exclusive.
See also: menstruation masculinizes women, a princess with pms who threatens to drown the land with her tears, delegitimating Hillary Clinton with pms-jokes, and our previous post on gender and the rest of the California Milk Processing Board’s website.
Lisa Wade, PhD is an Associate Professor at Tulane University. She is the author of American Hookup, a book about college sexual culture; a textbook about gender; and a forthcoming introductory text: Terrible Magnificent Sociology. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram.









Comments 123
Sarah May — July 15, 2011
What I find additionally strange is that advertising *through* men thing that both milk ad does even more than the midol. Men are not the major purchasers of milk (or other food) in most households. They aren't the intended consumers in this campaign. So this piece of misogynist crap is actually intended to make more women buy their products. The more offensive it is the better in this circumstance because it addresses not real experiences that women can judge for themselves whether they have, but the potential that men might be experiencing them as screechy bitches.
Guest — July 15, 2011
Isn't the whole PMS thing just a myth? I've only heard of it online in the last couple of years, none of the women I know have ever mentioned anything like that (for that matter, neither have the men), and even if that doesn't count for a lot of experience, I'm an almost 30-year old woman myself...
nmlop — July 15, 2011
I wish this post had quoted more of that wonderful vegansaurus post! (Or does it make omnivores too uncomfortable?)
Here's one of the key quotes: "The Milk Board doesn’t say how much milk ladies would have to consume to have an effect on their PMS symptoms. According to the 1998 study [that these ads are inspired by / based on], women would have to drink at least four glasses of milk per day, every day, to show some ease of PMS symptoms (fatigue and insomnia were not affected). On top of that, noticeable changes wouldn’t even begin until after three months of your daily milky medicine."
Even more misleading -- in the study this is based on, they didn't give the women milk. They gave the women calcium carbonate. The conclusion wasn't "milk helps pms" the conclusion was "calcium helps." Yknow what, besides milk, has tons of digestible calcium, but less cholesterol, saturated fat, animal suffering, and environmental damage? Leafy greens, soy, grains, beans, and certain fruits. To quote vegansaurus again: "In order to meet the daily
recommendation, you’d only need to consume one cup of tofu, or two cups
of cooked spinach, or a feast of figs! And don’t even get me started on
quinoa and kale."
The fact remains that these ads are both sexist and misleading. The sexism in this post was addressed wonderfully, and the invisibility of non-animal products (*and* how sexist these ads are) was addressed great in the vegansaurus post.
Whether you're omnivorous, vegetarian, or vegan, I think it's worth noting as well that these ads are super misleading and scientifically wrong in addition to being super sexist. Not that I'm surprised by that, any more than I'm surprised that they're super sexist, but I think it's just as important.
Miss Disco — July 15, 2011
These things make me want to avoid all soothers for pms, and just unleash the fiery hell that apparently they think is coming.
Yrro Simyarin — July 15, 2011
Gee, I have no idea where anyone could have gotten the idea that women act emotionally during PMS. My wife talks about suddenly wanting to cry because she saw a dead bug, or being angry that the tooth paste wasn't in the right spot. Twenty minutes later she will realize how completely irrational and ridiculous that was, but it doesn't stop the initial reaction. We make sure to steer clear of any serious decisions or conversations for a day or two specifically because she knows she won't be able to put any kind of reasonable perspective on it. Or does being feminist somehow make you immune to wild chemical imbalances? It's not *your* fault your body preps itself for reproduction every month and then freaks the hell out because it didn't need to.
Anonymous — July 15, 2011
You missed the best part of the milk ads: milk staged a fake protest
JR — July 15, 2011
From the Times article, quoting the milk board: "'We did it in the past, but the women just didn’t drink enough milk,' he says, laughing." When I read something like that, the first thing that comes to mind is S. Weir Mitchelll's Victorian "rest cure," prescribed for (usually female) patients diagnosed with, e.g., "hysteria," like Virginia Woolf, which involved overfeeding with large amounts of milk. (See also--"MILK FOR SUFFRAGETTES." [http://bit.ly/niK8ET] ...Some continuity in the opinions on this topic given space in the Times over the last hundred years, it looks like.)
naomi — July 15, 2011
I seem to recall reading that milk can actually IMPAIR calcium absorption - anyone have a cite to this?
That aside, I'd be more sympathetic to the media's exploitation of PMS, whose symptoms are real and can be troublesome, if someone would acknowledge the flip side: that many women have a corresponding hormonal surge at a different part of their cycle when their energy and endurance and mood has a tremendous UPswing. Why don't we get credit for that? Why not hire more women so we can get that increased productivity? Why don't we talk about the increase in libido?
I mean, I'm all for talking about problems, but sometimes even this glass-half-empty gal likes to acknowledge the positive. Too bad it's hard to sell anything unless there's an identified problem.
snedna — July 15, 2011
I've never been about period or PMS soothing. What I am about is having at least 24 extra sick days for working women so they can take day's off when the cramps/migraines/tiredness get unbearable, and a general understanding by the non-menstruating population that because they don't understand, they probably shouldn't judge, and i'mma include menstruating folks who don't feel much pain/tiredness as some of us.
$ocraTTTe$ — July 15, 2011
I am offended by any advertisement that indicates that there are meaningful hormonal differences between men and women. When my girlfriend began to be moody and emotionally unstable for a few days once every month, she insisted to me that it was because of her "period."
That's bullshit. She's just mentally ill, possibly bi-polar, and needs to be medicated with lithium not midol. PMS doesn't exist, if you think you're suffering from it, it's probably a combination of gender indoctrination and your own delusions, really all the more reason for psychiatric treatment. I mansplained to her that she was just trying to use negative gender stereotypes for women to explain away her own mental illness. Really, her defense of patriarchal assumptions about female hormonal problems was quite heartbreaking, I thought she was a more enlightened woman. Fortunately, the electro shock treatments have made her much more amendable to feminist thinking.
DJ-Roomba — July 15, 2011
What always bothers me about PMS discourse is the lack of distinction between PMS and PMDD. The emotional mood swings that the milk ads attribute to PMS sound more symptomatic of PMDD, a serious disorder that affects a minority of period-havers.
Emily — July 15, 2011
If a woman does experience PMS, it is the woman
who suffers, not the poor, put-upon men around her. But no one cares
about women's health unless it becomes inconvenient for men, so clearly
we should not market an ad campaign based on a women's
health issue toward women. Besides, if you read the fine print you'll
see it's calcium supplements, not milk, that supposedly help with PMS
symptoms. This entire thing is ridiculous.
Tom Megginson — July 15, 2011
I'd love to know what La Leche thinks of the campaign. They're partnered with "Got Milk?"
http://workthatmatters.blogspot.com/2011/07/fd-ad-fridays-premenstrual-edition.html
the Cabinet of Dr. Bobby — July 15, 2011
While all voices are welcome here, I'm getting a little peeved by the number of (presumably) straight cis men coming in to comment about how it's totally true for them so can't you take a joke? First of all, as several commenters have pointed out, many women do NOT experience PMS this way. Secondly, while exceptions abound, you're much less likely to notice the frequency of this trope in our culture. You have the privilege of seeing it as just a funny joke rather than a hurtful, often untrue narrative.
Tiferet — July 15, 2011
I'm another omnivore who finds the vegan website annoying--it was a good takedown of the sexism, but hardly propaganda-free, even if it's less egregious than the original failpit of sexism.
The Cabinet of Dr. Bobby — July 15, 2011
I also think it's interesting that there's this cultural narrative about how testosterone makes men do "crazy" things (which I think is a silly meme, obviously) but no one goes to suggest that this makes men permanently irrational or unstable to the point where their ability to lead is ever questioned
TeakLipstickFiend — July 15, 2011
I think this also relates to a lot of other stereotypes out there about women: that we need to be bought flowers and showered with gifts, that we need to be taken out to dinner, that our wedding day is the most important in our lives and it's all about us. In short, that men have to constantly pander to our whims, whether we have PMS or not. Ugh.
Anonymous — July 15, 2011
It annoys me that I can't speak sharply to someone without raising the possibility that I'm just acting based on some endocrine signals I can't control. I'm very even-tempered, so when I do say something a bit harsher, it's because I mean it.
Very obnoxious ads.
Emily — July 16, 2011
If I'm a raging bitch to my boyfriend with a good reason, I don't want him to dismiss it as PMS. I want him to acknowledge what has upset me.
If I'm a raging bitch to my boyfriend without any good reason, I don't want some half-arsed grovelling, apologies like 'I'm sorry for the thing or things that I did or didn't do'. I want him to call me out on being an irrational bitch.
Bri — July 16, 2011
I say we all drink soy milk to protest!
Simkha — July 16, 2011
It's no surprise that the milk board is misogynistic. The dairy industry is one built on the exploitation of non-human females, so exploiting stereotypes of human females is a logical next step (they also push the idea that dairy is necessary for calcium, when actually animal proteins strip away calcium, hence a much higher incidence of osteoporosis in countries where women regularly consume dairy products).
Simkha — July 16, 2011
And not that I really care, since I'm vegan and all, but this ad is extremely presumptuous in assuming that everyone's in a hetero relationship as well.
Myles — July 18, 2011
Unscented and fragrance free are actually different. Things marked as "unscented" can still trigger people with Multiple Chemical Sensitivities. In order to be respectful of the health of the people around me who live with MCS I use *only* products that are fragrance free.
Priya — July 20, 2011
this is one of the worst things i've seen as far as advertising goes. in this day and age, i don't see how they thought this is okay.
starshine — July 22, 2011
UPDATE - someone rethought the campaign:
http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2011/07/22/138600837/calif-milk-board-dumps-controversial-pms-campaign
starshine — July 22, 2011
UPDATE: the campaign has been scrapped:
http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2011/07/22/138600837/calif-milk-board-dumps-controversial-pms-campaign
Aaron Anderson — October 21, 2017
The menstrual cycle is nothing to fear. It's normal. However, the mood swings, violent outbursts, etc are something to fear.
Shit, I've been in relationships where the woman would be on her period and I would ask straight out "What do you want me to do?"
Heating pad? Medicine? Food?
And more often than not it's met with, "You should already know."
Well, some days you want ice cream and lifetime, other days it's just a heating pad and cuddles on the couch. Some days you just want sex.
And good forbid I offer the wrong thing. Then it's, "Jesus you're so fucking stupid. What's wrong with you? Call yourself a man? You're useless. God, I fucking hate you."
And when I ask again, what she wants, it's met with unintelligible screeches, objects being thrown, and being scratched, bit and hit. One girl broke my nose by throwing a coffee mug at me.
So yeah, men sometimes do have reason to fear women on their periods.
It's not an excuse to be a total abusive bitch.
Also, calcium supplements do help with pms... well guess what milk has... fucking calcium.