Along with “work/life balance” and other tired topics, an evergreen issue in the media remains the controversies surrounding breastfeeding. Less than six months ago, Jamie Lynne Grumet lit up the blogosphere by posing for the cover of TIME Magazine while breastfeeding her standing toddler. Outcry included pronouncements that the image was almost pornographic, psychologically damaging to her child, and exploitative of her white, twenty-something good looks. The drama of the image worked as the magazine flew off shelves and was named one of the top ten most controversial covers by the New York Daily News.
Within the “lactivist” community there seemed to be double-edged concern — on one hand, glee that an image of a breastfeeding woman was so publicly displayed — on the other, anger that the image so clearly did not depict the intimacy and bonding between mother and child that they insist breastfeeding promotes.
Sensing an opportunity to “set the record straight” as well as launch their own uptick in cover attention, the nonprofit quarterly magazine Pathways to Family Wellness persuaded Grumet to pose for them, this time surrounded by her husband, adopted son, and cradling her nursing naked now 4-year-old child in her lap. The inclusion of other family members changes the image from one of solo defiance to a message about her family system. On the cover, Grumet still looks directly at the camera, not at her feeding child, but her glance is far from defiant.
Grumet agreed to pose again in order to send a different message about breastfeeding, one she preferred. Grumet has said that this image portrays toddler breastfeeding more realistically, “incorporating the husband and siblings.” Yet, the multicultural family portrait has its own sense of staging. The idyllic family pile-on seems hardly part of everyday life, much less every feeding. Both images – part of the wider debate over breastfeeding — are carefully crafted to tell a particular story.
Some critics have mentioned that while Grumet’s intention may have been to reframe the image of breastfeeding, perhaps unwittingly again, she has contributed to the fanning of the flames around this issue. Others have accused her of “milking the moment.” The breastfeeding support website KellyMom tracked down the three other mothers who were all photographed for the TIME cover. KellyMom interviewed them about their experiences during the shoot, then reaction to, and fallout from the cover. Unfortunately, given the nature of the debate, individual women can often seem like pawns in these ever-intermittent media storms.
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Elline Lipkin, PhD, is a Research Scholar with UCLA’s Center for the Study of Women. She is the author of Girls’ Studies and The Errant Thread, recipient of the Kore Press First Book Award for Poetry. She tweets at @girlsstudies.
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Heather Brooks — December 8, 2012
*sigh* Breasts are for milk. I really don't understand why any of these covers are an issue. (i guess it's that my culture sexualizes breasts to the point that seeing them perform their natural function is now pornographic.)
mimimur — December 8, 2012
Interestig how this facet of motherhood has to be so sacred, not only in the resistance against bottle feeding, but in that all breastfeesing has to be bonding. Isn't the integrity of choosing your own routines enough of an argument?
As a side note, the positioning of her other child is a bit troubling, it almost looks as if they tacked him on after figuring out the perfect pose for mother, father and toddler. Not the best implications about an adopted child.
Elena — December 8, 2012
Yet, the multicultural family portrait has its own sense of staging.
Well, duh. The composition features a closed circle of arms hugging each other, which is the polar opposite of the hard lines of Grumet and her younger son standing straight in the Time cover, with the kid having his face nearly smushed as the only point of contact with his mother.
Of course both images were totally staged. It's just that this one is all curves and cozy flesh and intimacy in warm tones (with the odd grey and blue to give contrast) while the other was a much harder, vertical composition in clinical greys and blues.
Larrycharleswilson — December 8, 2012
Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
Ted_Howard — December 9, 2012
I think the biggest issue I have with the magazine covers are the use of her older children. It's obvious that the child will be eternally ridiculed by his peers. I know very little about the benefits or harms of breast feeding into ages three and above. My cursory glance of the literature doesn't seem to support any benefits into ages three or higher, though none of it mentioned any particular harms to the child. However, most of these observational studies suffer from obvious endogeneity (i.e. a mother who engages in extended breastfeeding may be different along other relevant dimensions) and small-sample size problems. I don't expect for the research to settle these issues because good luck getting a reasonable sample size of mothers to be randomly assigned breast feeding styles. But I'm fairly confident putting your child on a magazine cover breastfeeding at age 3 or whatever is going to be socially harmful in his future. You can say that he shouldn't be ridiculed for it, but that's what's going to happen. Putting your kid up for years of ridicule so you can use him as a prop for your views on breastfeeding seems very wrong to me. It's less of a problem when you pose for Pathways, because (I think) nobody reads Pathways, but Time Magazine is a major platform. Further, you'd have to be a complete moron not to realize the Time Magazine cover was so provocative that you'd draw a massive amount of media attention. Even if breastfeeding beyond age three has no negative psychological effects on the child (something I doubt, but I'm not going to take a hard stance on it), I'm fairly sure the ridicule from his peers will be.
Chris — December 9, 2012
Whore.
Krishna Washburn — December 9, 2012
I think that this image is definitely improved by the inclusion of the father and older brother. In fact, the tenderness in their gestures, their soft, downcast eyes, the older brother's fingers laced warmly with the younger brother, the father's nose in the mother's hair, give me the impression that these two are the heart of the family, and it is their love that helps the mother and younger brother thrive. If that's all I knew about the photo, that is how I would interpret it.
I did not recognize Lynne Grumet from the Time cover at all. I wonder if her real home life looks more like this photo or the Time photo, or like something completely different.
Travis G. Flynn — December 14, 2012
Dear Ms Grumet, why not just become a porn star? It's obvious you're desperate for attention and you've figured out you can get it by flashing your boobs. You'll probably make more money this way as well.
Carole Miller Hallin — June 21, 2013
I still think this mom has issues. Is she nursing for him or herself? You have to stop and r eally ask this question. Could she realistically pump and put the milk in a sippy cup for the kid to take to daycare? Because he really needs to grow a sense of self and realize that nutrition and comfort ranges beyond mom's boob. Lord knows my son would be scrutinized if he was on the bottle at this age (nevermind if said bottle contained breast milk)
quick hit: Shifting discourses of motherhood: the Victorian breastfeeding photo fad - feimineach — January 3, 2014
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Brian — July 13, 2014
Naked? Um, he had grey pants on. You can see them in the image. They appear to be cargo pants. Also, the child is three in the image, not four.
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