I had a blast reading at Bluestockings last night and was totally touched by Jennifer Baumgardner’s introduction. What a natural high to look out on a hometown crowd that’s full of friends and loved ones. Thank you to all of you who attended (full house!), to Marco and Elizabeth for pouring wine, and to all those who came for a drink at Lolita Bar post-reading.

Moving from the serious to the silly, I spent the day recovering at Coney Island, watching the Mermaid Parade. What a hoot. I want to dress up next year in glitter, bikini (keeping the top on, thank you), and tail. One part Mardi Gras, one part summer Halloween, and fully New York City, it was a dreamy way to kick off the season and take a quick break from The Tour. If you’ve never been, I highly recommend. Even if the idea of shells and rollerblades doesn’t turn you on, it’s a great spectator’s event, and very up-with-people and all. I found myself unmistakably moved by the irreverent celebration of beauty, bodies, and sea.

Washington DC.

My friend Heather once told me, soon after she had her first baby, that all the things that worry you about motherhood when you’re pregnant are none of the things you worry about once you have that kid. You worry about different things instead. I feel a bit like that about this book (Sisterhood, Interrupted). Before it was born, I worried (well, worried is strong – more like wondered) that I’d offend older women readers or alienate younger ones. Or both. Or that I’d be accused of adding fuel to the flame by writing about feminist fights. So far, nope.

In that miraculous stroke of stars in alignment and timing (I think being published right after Jessica and Courtney’s books took off like wildfire, starting crucial debates, was fortuitous), my book seems to be hitting folks in just the way I had hoped — and is drumming up some panels and forums for cross-generational conversation among gals old and young. (Stay tuned for more details – but the first one is a Demos Forum on July 26th. Lots more in the works for Fall.)

So what are the worries, a week post-delivery? Only the silly stuff. Like forgetting my camera on the South Jersey trip and not being able to preserve the memory of walking down Alice Paul’s staircase at Paulsdale, or not publicly thanking the manager of Olsson’s Bookstore last night in DC (THANK YOU, Olsson’s!), or not taking a photo (brought the camera this time) of Emily Napalo and Diana, assistants to Ellie Smeal at Feminist Majority Foundation and Kim Gandy at NOW respectively, who came to the reading, to post here on the blog….

So before I forget, a warm shout out to those in DC: Emily, Diana, Michal Avni, Heather Boushey, Allison Kimmich, Sarah Blustain, Ann Friedman, and especially to my host John Schmidt. And to the young women (esp Danielle) who interviewed me for PBS’s To the Contrary. You all totally made my day!

A thoughtful, intergenerational review of Sisterhood, Interrupted–by Linda Hirshman and then Nona Willis-Aronowitz appears in today’s New York Observer.

I’m off to catch a train to DC for a PBS taping and a reading tonight at Olsson’s, DuPont Circle. If you’re in the DC area, please, come say hello!

Here we go: “Sex Wars Old and New”.

Favorite comments from “williepilgrim,” who writes,

Why not consider the following: no matter how much we wish it weren’t so, objective truth in reality is a direction in which to travel. It will never be a destination at which one resides.

…and “Lon,” who writes:

Are these debates about sexuality to be contrasted with debates about religion and ethics which we are so good at resolving once and for all?

Official tour kicked off this week with a reading at a Border’s near Philly, hosted by the South Jersey Alice Paul chapter of NOW. Proceeds from the day went to the chapter — I hope they collected oodles! The audience was my ideal group, and I’m afraid they set the standard, now, for this tour. The president of the chapter was in her late 20s, and there were members there in their 60s as well.

Before the event, my host, the amazing, inspiring, long-time activist Judy Buckman, brought me to visit Paulsdale, the birthplace of Alice Paul. Apparently, during the long, hard suffrage campaign, Alice occasionally came there to recharge. Surrounded by acres of beautiful country, Paulsdale was her personal retreat. Judy told me about the more recent fight circa 1991 to register the place as a historic landmark (“Now it’d be easier if, say, you were talking about the home of Thomas Jefferson,” the Paulsdale crusaders were told.) The gorgeously restored farmhouse (above) is now home to the Alice Paul Institute, complete with leadership programs for young women and girls. I can’t wait to introduce the Woodhull (yes, as in Victoria) Institute to Alice’s Institute, if they aren’t friends already. I find it intensely moving the way first-wave heroines are being reclaimed by women’s institutions today.

In a stroke of perfect timing, Iron Jawed Angels arrived from Netflix last night. Can’t wait to check out Hilary Swank’s impersonation of Alice. Yeah, like I’m now on first-name basis with the author of the ERA. Guess that’s what happens when you visit Paulsdale. There’s something truly magical and inspirited about the place. Go there. You’ll see what I mean.

Coming this week on HuffPo: I just sent off a post, “Sex Wars Old and New,” commenting on the 103 (!) comments posted in response to Courtney Martin’s interview with me on AlterNet last week (“Why Feminists Fight”). Let me know what you think. It should be up soon.

Also this week: Watch for an excerpt of Sisterhood, Interrupted in the next edition Mothers Movement Online!

If I weren’t going to be in Illinois at the National Women’s Studies conference on June 29, I’d be at the Knitting Factory in NYC that night, here:

Rock for Young Women will feature musical performances by Bouva, Boyskout, Tamara Fishman, Frank Hoier, and Receptor. Molly Kelleher and Maryann Schaub of Broad Comedy will present “It’s Great To Wait,” written by Katie Goodman. The evening will also include several spoken word performances.

Tickets at the door will be $20 with half of the proceeds going to GEMS (an organization that provides preventive and transitional services to young women, ages 12-21 years, who are at risk for or involved in sexual exploitation and violence) and the other half to the New York metro chapter of the Younger Women’s Task Force (which does great work on reproductive rights, voter education, and other issues important to young women in New York City). Doors open at 7 p.m. at the Knitting Factory (74 Leonard Street). Purchase advance tickets from the Knitting Factory for $15.

Thanks to Patti Binder for passing it on. And to someone named Nathan, whose graphic (above) I stole. I’m very into hot pink today – I’m doing my first bookstore reading for Sisterhood, Interrupted, which has a hot pink cover. Fashion advice needed: Is it tacky to wear a dress that matches your book?

It’s real – and I’m jazzed. Starting this fall, I’ll be touring campuses and elsewhere as part of an intergenerational panel with three AMAZING fellow writers/speakers:

Courtney Martin (author of Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters)

Kristal Brent Zook (author of Black Women’s Lives: Stories of Pain and Power)

Gloria Feldt (author of The War on Choice and former president of Planned Parenthood)

Together, we feel it’s time that women of all ages talked and listened to one another instead of rehashing the same complaints in isolation. We want to reopen the dialogue about women’s lives, power, entitlement, and the future of feminism, but this time, with a rich, cross-generational understanding. If you’re connected to a campus or organization and are interested in bringing us your way, please contact Taryn at taryn.kutujian@gmail.com.

As much fun as I’m having over here, I hate it that geography and book tour are keeping me from being with Dadio (pictured left, with yours truly) on Father’s Day this year. To ease my angst, I’ve been soaking up a bit of the bloggy goodness going on around Dad’s Day this year as I get ready to hit the road. A few highlights:

With trademark savvyness, Cali Yost at Work + Life Fit blog reminds us work/life negotiations are an “everyone issue” and reports on a just-released Monster.com survey where 58% of fathers felt their employers should be more considerate of their needs as working dads, and a majority appreciate having a flexible work schedule.

Lovely piece via Women’s eNews on the evolution of the father-daughter bond…

Interesting “resource kit” page for journalists covering same-sex parents, over at G.L.A.A.D.’s website, via Pseudo-Adrienne over at Liberal Feminist Bias…

Congrats to Feminist Dad on the birth of Edie Andrew, and kudos to him in general! I love this guy. You’ve gotta check it out…

And P.S. Heartfelt congratulations to Michael Heller on becoming a dad this week!

I’m so excited to go for dinner with the women of NOW before my reading at Border’s in Jersey on Monday! Judith Glick Buckman, one of the founders of the Alice Paul Chapter – which is one of the oldest and largest chapters, I believe – wrote a very moving letter about intergenerational issues, and her experiences. Here’s Judy:

When I was 7 months pregnant I attended a National NOW conference. My daughter, who is now 31, literally got feminism with her mother’s milk and attended many demonstrations in her stroller holding a picket sign.

My greatest fear is that she, like so many women of her generation, assume the battles have been won and due to this complacence, their tenuous right to choose will be pulled out from under them before they know what hit them, much less have the skills or the willingness to counter attack.

I’ve been an activist with South Jersey NOW—Alice Paul chapter for more than 30 years. The good news AND the bad news, is that we are a multi-generational group of women and men from the teen-aged years to the 80s. While we do our best to work together to ensure equal rights, sometimes that goal seems more difficult to achieve than our ongoing battles against the conservative forces in this country.

Based on Deborah Siegel’s insight into this situation and her determination to serve as an interpreter between the second and third waves of feminism, I am excited and confident that her book will be an invaluable guide enabling us to bridge that divide.

When I was the age my daughter is now, I had no idea what gifts awaited me through my women’s right activism–nothing else in my life has given me the same sense of power, accomplishment, sisterhood and satisfaction, which I quite literally could not have imagined in my 20’s. Apart from the great changes to society that the second wave has accomplished, the act of fighting the battles has been one of the most positive and enriching forces in my life.

Deborah Siegel’s message is one that all who care about women’s rights, regardless of age, needs to hear. As well as alerting my daughter’s generation that we need to fight the rest of the battles together, my most fervent wish is that Ms. Siegel’s book will teach those of us in the second wave, how to pass the torch in a way that will not extinguish the flame.

Thank you, Judy! How I loves me that metaphor – passing the torch without extinguishing the flame….Much food for thought. Readers, your thoughts?