Cross-posted at Family Inequality.
Americans about my age and older all seem to have stories about how we survived our school playgrounds without today’s cushy soft surfaces, safety-oriented climbing structures, and running water.
Here is a picture of the playground at my elementary school. I myself survived a fall off one of those seesaws onto the broken-glass-strewn asphalt, with nothing but a scrape to show for it (attended to by the school secretary — there was no “school nurse” back then either).
In the safety craze in recent decades, sadly, real seesaws were one of the first things to go.
Go back another few generations, and you’ll find stories like this — about 200 children killed in the streets of New York in 1910 (from the NYT Jan. 1, 1911):
Most of those kids weren’t in cars or wagons; they were playing in the streets, doing work for their families, or just wandering around unattended — there were no public playgrounds. In contrast, in 2009 there were about 10 pedestrian or cycling children killed by vehicles in New York City. Ah, the good old days.*
Nowadays
As things have gotten safer for America’s children, of course, parents have become ever more concerned with their safety, as well as with their learning and development. Somewhere in America on a Sunday a few weeks ago, in an affluent community, a public playground was bubbling with activity. Every child seemed to be enjoying a rollicking good time on the latest safety-designed play equipment, cushioned by a luxuriously deep bed of mulch.
Also, each child seemed to be within a few feet of a parent or other adult caretaker — coaching, encouraging, spotting, supervising.
In recent years, concern about the physical fitness of children has increased, especially among poor children. Some researchers have asked whether the proximity of safe neighborhood playgrounds is one cause of the social class disparity in obesity rates. That would make sense because obesity rates are lower among children who play outdoors. But the relationship between social class and playing outdoors is not clear at all. Rich children have more access to some kinds of facilities, but poor children have more free time — and, where there is public housing, it usually includes playgrounds, like this one photographed in the 1960s:
In Annette Lareau’s analysis of family life and social class, Unequal Childhoods, children of middle class and richer parents spend more time in organized activities, and poorer kids spend more time in unstructured time (including play and TV). But as these pictures show, there’s play and there’s play. Are middle class parents hovering more than poorer parents do, and with what effect?
Consider a recent article by Myron Floyd and colleagues (covered here), which attempted to assess the level of physical activity among children in public parks by observing 2,700 children in 20 public parks in Durham, NC:
[The] presence of parental supervision was the strongest negative correlate of children’s activity… the presence of adults appears to inadvertently suppress park-based physical activity in the current study, particularly among younger children… This result should be used to encourage park designers to create play environments conducive to feelings of safety and security that would encourage rather than discourage active park use among children. For example, blending natural landscapes, manufactured play structures, and fencing in close intimate settings can be used to create comfortable environments for children and families. Such design strategies could encourage parents to allow their children to freely explore their surroundings, providing more opportunities for physical activity.
Interestingly, park in the pictured above has a fence around it so that parents can hang around at a distance with little fear for their children.
Under social pressure
In Under Pressure, one of many books bemoaning the excesses of over-parenting, Carl Honoré wrote:
Even when we poke fun at overzealous parenting… part of us wonders, What if they’re right? What if I’m letting my children down by not parenting harder? Racked by guilt and terrified of doing the wrong thing, we end up copying the alpha parent in the playground.
The point is not just that some parents have overzealous supervisory ambitions, driven by unequal investments in children and a threateningly competitive future. I think there is a supervision ratchet that feeds on the interaction between parents. In an article called “Playground Panopticism,” Holly Blackford summarized her observations:
The mothers in the ring of park benches symbolize the suggestion of surveillance, which Foucault describes as the technology of disciplinary power under liberal ideals of governance. However, the panoptic force of the mothers around the suburban playground becomes a community that gazes at the children only to ultimately gaze at one another, seeing reflected in the children the parenting abilities of one another.
This plays out in everyday interaction, whether one wants to engage it or not. If everyone else’s kid is closely supervised while yours is running around bonkers on her own, what is a parent to do? If the other parents insist that their kids not go “up the slide” and yours just scrambles past them, you feel the pressure. (You also put the other parent in the position of violating another taboo — supervising someone else’s child.) So it’s not just fear of underparenting that drives parents to hover — it’s also the cross-parent interactions. These are the moments when contagious parenting behavior spreads.
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*I started looking at this after reading about it in Viviana Zelizer’s Pricing the Priceless Child, in which she writes, “The case of children’s accidental death provides empirical evidence of the new meanings of child life in twentieth-century America.”
Reminder: This blog post does not constitute research, but rather commentary, observation and recommendations for reading and discussion. The description of my childhood playground, and of one recent afternoon at one park, are anecdotes, something that stimulates reflection on wider issues, not empirical evidence or data.
Comments 49
Yrro Simyarin — November 4, 2011
Love the statistics from the turn of the century. You always have to wonder where the point of diminishing returns is.
Frowner — November 4, 2011
What I notice is that contemporary child-safe playgrounds are fun for little kids but not fun for older kids. The parks where I played as a child stayed fun until we were in our early teens - sturdy swings with flexible seats long chains that swung very high; a big geodesic dome (probably twelve feet high at its highest point) made of pipe; a three-tiered climbing structure with all kinds of bars to swing from, many high enough that while a parent could help a child down, that parent would need to raise their arms to do so. Also, there were all kinds of elaborate "systems" - in my favorite park, you could start out walking on a series of progressively higher balance beams, step across on a series of wide posts of various heights, and indeed work your way through the whole park by climbing, swinging from bars and balancing without once touching the ground. There were also a lot of low bars for doing flips on, something that I never ever see anymore.
I remember stopping by the park to swing for twenty minutes or so when I was still in high school.
The biggest danger in all this was falling, but I don't remember any serious falls in my class or among my friends. At the time, one of the Chicago parks (well designed, near the art museum and now gone forever) had a neat weatherproof but spongy-rubbery ground cover which seemed like the perfect compromise between safety and effectiveness.
Even now, if I were near a park with adult-sized equipment I'd go play on it. I bet that many adults who are a bit sedentary now would be more active if they could use swings and fun climbing stuff (and not have to pay for a posh gym).
Mawg Land — November 4, 2011
You struck a nerve with the "up the slide" comment. I've never had a problem with my kids climbing up the slide (unless of course there were other kids trying to slide down); but the pressure to stop your kid from doing that is definitely there.
Anonymous — November 4, 2011
I think it should be noted, every time I pass by a playground in a housing project, it's completely deserted, IF it isn't in a complete state of dangerous disrepair. The state of housing developments in the 1960s were somewhat different than they were today, if only based on the fact that that playground was likely brand new at the time, and parents were more likely to let their kids out. Nowadays, most of the playgrounds I've seen would be terribly dangerous for a child to play on (not based on the original design, but because they haven't been repaired or updated in 50 years) and the areas are considered too dangerous for parents to let their kids out.
Nuala — November 4, 2011
Last summer (in Ireland where we were on holiday, we live in Scotland) someone handed me my then 18 month old daughter who had been happily climbing some equipment. At the point she was handed to me she was crying but I'm certain this was because she was shocked about a stranger picking her up, not because she'd hurt herself. Taken aback by this I actually thanked the person but then returned my daughter to the equipment, where she happily played for another hour without incident. I wish I'd thought to ask the woman why she'd thought it necessary but my first thought was that the baby had fallen.
My 2 daughters combine being physically very confident with small frames so I'm used to people being shocked by their abilities but that was a first for me. I agree there is a lot of pressure to hoover - I've had people comment on me knitting while my kid played in a safe gated playground.
Aeon Blue — November 4, 2011
I was surprised to learn that, for many centuries, many cultures swaddled their children for the first few years of life or outright chained them down to keep them from accidentally hurting or killing themselves. In the Middle Ages, European children were swaddled for so long that they skipped crawling and went straight to walking; they even had walking aids that resembled marionette strings to help their underdeveloped limbs. What I got from that was that, despite the general rumblings of "back in my day we got along fine without..." kids of days gone by were not necessarily been better at taking care of themselves without supervision. They were prone to falling in wells and drowning, running into hot stoves, having their skulls cracked open by livestock, and the like, and their parents were just as interested in supervising them, even if supervision took the form of making sure the kid was immobile (or close to it) and at arm's length at all times.
Basio — November 4, 2011
This argument seems to fall under the classic selection bias-- you weren't hurt, so you assume it was safe.
My elementary school used to have an awesome playground. It was made all of recycled car tires and timbers, with a huge tire swing of like 9 tires together and a dragon made of old tires that you could climb on, and of course see-saws. It was so much fun as a kid.
Then when I was in first grade, they remodeled the main part of the playground, so all the tires were gone. Called it a safety concern. The new one was a plastic, carefully constructed modern playground but it lacked most of the things we loved about the old playground. Only the tire dragon was left.
In fifth grade, they got rid of the dragon among more complaints. But by then I understood. In the time I was there, while I was never hurt, I saw my brother break his foot jumping off it, three people have limbs caught in the tires, and several kids get bad splinters from the wood support beams. I missed the cool dragon but I was rational enough to understand that it WAS dangerous. And when I talked to older kids, they all had stories of injuries from the playground equipment. Sometimes it was just scrapes, but the huge tire swing was removed because a girl's hair had caught on the joints and she had been partially scalped. At the time, none of us kids heard of it, because the school and our parents didn't want to scare us. I only learned of it at all much later, when I attended school board meetings and chatted with the superintendent.
I guess my point is that see-saws are removed because they ARE dangerous. School playgrounds, and any playgrounds where children might have minimal supervision, have to be designed for that one idiot child who tries to use the see-saw to launch his classmate into the air. That said, it does amuse me that parents are always MOST cautious on the SAFEST playgrounds...
Dionne Banks — November 4, 2011
In addition to the likelihood that hovering parents might limit kids' physical activity and "risky" physical trial and error, I think parents might be inadvertently stunting social growth as well. I always notice parents intervening in minute interactions, before a problem even has a chance to occur. Say, for example, two kids want to to on the slide at the same time. A parent quickly jumps in to referee. I think playgrounds are the perfect place for kids to negotiate these situations on their own. If parents would just step back for a minute, they might be pleasantly surprised to learn that even young children can be quite capable of dealing with these scenarios.
Milly — November 4, 2011
I think something that gets missed in these debates, is the way our society segregates so strongly by age. I think it's a positive when adults are interacting more with children, and of course it's economic wealth that allows certain subsections of society to do so. It's great to see kids playing together well with minimal supervision, but children need adults to model appropriate behaviour especially social and group behaviour. I'm not so worried about kids hurting themselves but I do worry about anti-social behaviour and as a feminist mother and someone who cares about social justice, I wish more parents cared about kids being fair and not discriminating against or ostracizing children that are 'other' and I think that kind of parenting is far more important if we want to see a just society.
Instead of excluding adults from playgrounds to encourage play, we need to get a bit more playful ourselves. One of the coolest things I've seen is a mixed netball team of parents and children playing together. That was awesome.
Grafton Kevan — November 4, 2011
I think the dangerous or non-dangerous playground equipment/installation toys is probably not really very relevant.
It's the layout of the entire facility.
Good dog parks are carefully designed to manipulate the behavior of dogs and their owners to minimize dog-on-dog violence. The most recognizable example that springs to mind is the little anteroom pen where you unleash your dog before entering the play area. This is because most dog park violence happens when a leashed dog encounters an unleashed one on entering the park. Similarly, dog parks are often designed to discourage owners from hovering, because another common problem is when dog 1 attacks dog 2 in response to dog 2 bumping into dog 1's owner. So the seating tends to be consolidated so people aren't encouraged to cross the dog play area unless they're actively playing with the dogs.
I grew up in a time and place where dogs just wandered around the neighborhood and played together. If I was going to build a dog park for roving neighborhood dogs, it would look very different than a regular dog park, which presumes owner supervision. Not the toys, space, surface, water and other amenities, but points of access, lines of vision, etc. I'd want it to be easily watched from further away, but not necessarily close, and I'd make it so nobody could corner anybody there.
Playgrounds are, largely, laid out in designs that suit roving neighborhood children. But middle-class parents don't encourage or allow their kids to wander the neighborhood unattended. The playgrounds don't encourage parents to relax and sit back and let the kids just play -- a kid can pass out of sight on the other side of a structure and then wander off out of the playground entirely. (And if your kid is playing there unsupervised, you want that. She should be able to bolt in any direction and get out, and it shouldn't be possible to corner her there.)
Philip Cohen points out that fenced playground, and how it allows the parents to keep a distance without fear, and that's exactly it. Fence it, give parents a comfortable place to sit where they can see the whole play area without hovering, and they'll probably stop.
And, well, yeah. Separate play areas for smaller and larger dogs, same for kids. The little kids areas need to be laid out so a parent can get to the child faster, and they need to protect toddlers from getting bumped by bigger kids.
Ted Paulson — November 5, 2011
Hovering also reflects a lost sense of community. I do not know the other kids who play at the playground. If they seem aggressive or like they might accidentally bump my kiddos or push him/her aside, then I hover more.
Personally, I love helping my kids try something more adventurous. My kiddos climb stuff other parents wont let their kids climb, I push them higher in their swings etc. So I play with them guiding them to do something awesome.
Oh, and sometimes I hover, like when my 2 year old decides to climb something 6 times his height, Yeah, I stand there ready to catch him if he falls.
*my kids are the ones climbing up the slide- I don't want them to learn how to stand in line and slide like they are supposed. But to freely explore, slide on the stomachs, climb up the wrong way, BUT to be polite and not run into another kid or push someone aside. Tough balance. Following the social rules will lead my kids to be great cube jockeys for some corporation someday. But pushing to better social norms will let them redefine their world. Love it.
Liz Scott — November 6, 2011
its sad that things are not what they use to be. I remember getting splinters on the playground equipment, jumping off the swings and landing on the hard ground, and coming home scraped and bruised from falling off the jungle gym. I would came home and my mom would patch me up and send me back out. compared to now, if a kid falls off the aerobics gym and gets a bump layers are called and the parents sue the shit out of the schools
Anonymous — November 7, 2011
I was pondering this post at the playground this weekend, when I saw a dad hovering below his daughter as she climbed on top of the monkey bars. I was thinking, "Just sit down, she's doing fine," when another dad came up and said to him, "You're so calm! I could never let my kid do that."
Some additional factors that likely contribute are 1) fear of litigation on the part of Parks & Rec departments and their insurers and 2) John Walsh. (Not to blame John Walsh alone, but he did a very effective job of using an increase in non-custodial parental abductions to draw attention to the problem of stranger abduction.)
Though stranger abductions have not gone up appreciably in 50 years so, attention toward them has, and parental attitudes toward supervision have changed dramatically. It's more likely today that parent will accompany kids to the playground -- and it's a lot easier to let your kids do risky things on playground equipment if you aren't actually there to *see* it.
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