Football fans like me have undoubtedly heard about the indictment of Adrian Peterson on child abuse charges for striking his 4-year-old son with a thin tree branch. Pictures revealing multiple lacerations on the child’s thigh have surfaced, and exchanges regarding another of his children show Peterson has used physical discipline more than once. The case has further ignited intense debates about the use of corporal punishment. While many of us may recoil at pictures and wonder how an adult could inflict physical harm on a child, views of corporal punishment are not uniform. They have changed over time and vary by racial group.
Take American attitudes about spanking over the past 50 years. In 1968, 94% of American adults approved of spanking a child, but by 2012, the figure dropped to 70%. While the majority of American parents still spank their children, some are more likely to spank than others. According a recent study of 20,000 kindergartners and their parents, black parents are the most likely to spank their children (89%) and Asian parents, least likely (73%). White and Hispanic parents fell in between, at 79% and 80%, respectively.
That Asian parents are less likely to use corporal punishment has led to speculation that there must be something unique about East Asian culture that promotes discipline without relying on physical force.
If this were the case, we would expect to see corporal punishment banned in East Asian countries, since national bans on corporal punishment reflect cultural norms and are associated with a decline in its support and reported use. Currently, 24 countries have banned corporal punishment; nineteen are in Europe. There are no national bans in Asia.
That no Asian country has banned the use of corporal punishment and that it remains an accepted form of discipline reveal that differences in the use of corporal punishment cannot be attributed to culture alone.
So how do we explain the differences across racial groups? Parental education and socioeconomic status are stronger drivers of parenting strategies than differences in race or culture. Highly educated, middle-class parents are less likely to use corporal punishment to discipline their children than less-educated, working-class, and poor parents. Asian Americans are, on average, more highly educated than other Americans, including whites.
This is a result of the hyper-selectivity of Asian immigration from countries like India, China, and Korea, in which immigrants from these countries are not only more highly educated than their counterparts who did not immigrate, but are also more highly educated than the general U.S. population. Hence, Asian immigrants are not a random sample of all Asians. Rather, they represent a highly educated subgroup, which explains why they are the least likely to use physical force to discipline their children.
In my research with Min Zhou, we interviewed the adult children of Chinese and Vietnamese immigrants in Los Angeles about their experiences of growing up American. As expected, those with more highly educated parents were more likely to have been disciplined with socioemotional strategies. Rather than use physical force, their parents would verbally express their disappointment or give a stern facial cue that signaled their disapproval.
Moreover, these parents praised the positive behavior of other children, both in front of their children and in front of other parents and children. By lauding positive behavior privately and publicly, these parents indirectly reinforced their expectations and provided concrete role models for their children to emulate. This dual socioemotional strategy of internal disapproval and external praise provided their children with a clear-cut portrait of model behavior, in spite intergenerational and linguistic differences between immigrant parents and their U.S.-born children. While the second-generation Chinese and Vietnamese admitted that the constant comparisons were “irritating,” they acknowledged that their parents provided a clear signal of what behavior to follow.
Still, some of our interviewees admitted experiencing physical abuse that would rival that experienced by Adrian Peterson’s young son. In fact, some told us the abuse continued into their teenage years and stemmed from severe intergenerational conflicts that exploded over which college a child should attend or what career trajectory he or she should follow.
A third group of parents took socioemotional strategies to an extreme, telling their children that they were so disappointed that they could not face other parents. They were just that embarrassed about their child’s behavior or lack of accomplishments. So, the use of socioemotional strategies may help reinforce certain positive behaviors, but used carelessly or as a manipulation, it can leave children feeling just as powerless and despondent as any physical punishment.
Jennifer Lee, PhD, is a sociologist at the University of California, Irvine. Her book, The Diversity Paradox, examines patterns of intermarriage and multiracial identification among Asians, Latinos, and African Americans.
Cross-posted at The Society Pages Specials.
Comments 21
Bill R — October 2, 2014
My understanding is the educational attainment of the parents in America at least is a strong and reliable predictor of abuse behavior toward children; the uneducated being more likely to commit acts of violence. I wonder if this effect is more powerful than cultural heritage.
Mara — October 2, 2014
So, if education is the variable that explains the differences, how then to explain the virtually identical rates of spanking for white, non-Hispanic and Native Americans? The latter group is about half as likely as the former to have a Bachelor's degree or higher.
FYouMudFlaps — October 2, 2014
Another plus for Asian-Americans
liz — October 3, 2014
As an Asian-American who was physically punished by my parents as a child, I found these statistics extremely surprising and unlikely, as from my experience physical punishment is a very common aspect of childhood discipline in Asian cultures. No doubt, you are aware of the disciplinary strictness elucidated by Amy Chua's "Tiger Mom." You can be pretty certain that corporeal punishment is a big part of tiger mothers. My hunch, is that you may have sampled educated Asian American parents who have had very negative, traumatic experiences as a child, have developed attitudes in reaction to those traumatic childhood experiences and firstly would not wish it upon their child, and secondly, realise that more harm than good is done to the child and its great detriment to the parent/child relationship that results from this sort of discipline. And thus, they may be more opposed to it for that reason.
She — October 3, 2014
indian kid here... educated upper-mid class parents (not engineers, doctors or lawyers though for stereotyping assistance). Spanking is just not a common physical punishment commonly. Face slapping is... and of course emotional punishment. So where's that in the survey?
Harsha — October 3, 2014
http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/indian-government-bans-corporal-punishment-in-schools-38661
Derea — October 3, 2014
The title of this article should be changed to "Why Asian American Parents Spank Their Kids Slightly Less"
SURVEY SAYS FAIL — October 4, 2014
yeah the term "spanking" may inadvertently eliminate self-reporting of other forms of physical abuse. I have been horrified by stories of Asian friends about physical abuse from their fathers well into their teens, girls too. I am Black and I got spankings as a child but nothing like what they described to me. I think all the cultures are more alike on this than we realize.
Lunad — October 8, 2014
I wouldn't put too much stock in the data from the GSS. The sample size is too small to get a good estimate for Asian Americans.
Nadeem — February 15, 2015
I myself have this feeling that there are more minority parents who are firm or stern in punishing and or disciplining their kids than white parents,but of course let's not forget that some white parents "mean business" when punishing or disciplining their children.
Ami — November 6, 2020
As the daughter of educated (mom is an MD, dad has an engineering degree and an MBA and went to Stanford and University of Michigan -- Ann Arbor) upper-middle class immigrants from India, I have to echo those who are surprised by, or don't believe the results of this study that Asian-Americans particularly those who are educated & affluent hit their kids less than others.
Because as I said, both my parents are highly educated, and hitting us (because I prefer not to use the candy-coated euphemism of "spanking" and instead, call it what it is. HITTING!) was pretty much their ONLY means of discipline, at least for the bulk of our childhood/adolescence.
In fact my dad hit me practically EVERY SINGLE school day during 1st grade, because I was getting detentions for being unable to sit still in class and fidgeting, having nervous tics & other stuff (never mind that I have autism, ADHD and other conditions, and couldn't help it!) and hit me almost as often for the same or similar reasons in kindergarten and preschool.
Although they did use other consequences (like no TV) on occasion when we were older, like middle school and high school, hitting was usually their "go-to" response for everything!
jAMES yaakov gARRINGER — January 1, 2021
I find the articles to be contradictory from article to article.
Shin Shin Tang — July 13, 2023
I'm a clinical psychologist and in my new book - Asian American Psychology and Psychotherapy: Intergenerational Trauma, Betrayal, and Liberation - I explain why the study that Dr Lee cites from Child Trends is extremely faulty. Asking Asian American parents questions about child abuse is the worst way to conduct epidemiological research and is not the standard. Think about how important it is to preserve face among Asians. The reality is multiple large-scale studies that asked people directly about their own experiences have uncovered extremely high rates of all forms of child abuse and neglect among Asian Americans. It's nice to think maybe we don't hurt our kids the way other ethnic groups do, but it's just not true and it's harmful to the victims to spread this false narrative.