“What is it that I want?”
Jane Van Galen asked herself this question after reading a gushing profile of an “island cabin” in The Seattle Times. It begins: “Lots of folks have lots of reasons for wanting their own piece of land out of town” and quotes one of the new cabin’s owners who, when pregnant, came to realize: “I can’t raise a child just in the city … I wanted woods, salamanders and pileated woodpeckers.”
So, she and her husband “went right out,” bought nine acres on an island, and built this a stunning “cabin.” Writing at her site, Education and Class, Van Galen processed her reaction to this article. She added up the costs, figuring that the owners spent close to a million dollars. “I knew that my unease,” she wrote, “was not just straightforward jealously.” So, what did she want?
She knew what she did not want:
Narratives in which the wealthy are held up as model parents who upon hearing of the dangers of the modern world, “go right out” to provide acres of weekend woods for their children; narratives that invite us to admire their paint colors and beautiful windows and solid black granite bathtub without asking too many questions about how it is that relatively young parents can ensure that their child has access to acres of his own private salamanders, and especially not to ask too many questions about how all children might have room to grow and thrive...
She wanted, “for once,” to hear wealthy people just admit they’re rich — for whatever reason — instead of framing their decision to build a vacation home as simply what any good parent would do.
“I love having this for my son,” the owner is quoted. But Van Galen wants to know: What about everyone else’s children?
Cross-posted at Global Policy TV.
Lisa Wade, PhD is an Associate Professor at Tulane University. She is the author of American Hookup, a book about college sexual culture; a textbook about gender; and a forthcoming introductory text: Terrible Magnificent Sociology. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram.
Comments 13
Andrew — August 5, 2014
I grew up in a small apartment in a working-class urban neighborhood with an astronomical crime rate and abysmal school ratings. And yet my childhood as was full of blue herons, alligators, armadillos, porpoises, lizards, and fruit bats as any nature-loving parent could hope, thanks to local public parks that didn't fence off the wildlife for the amusement of a few privileged families. Leisure time for family recreation is a very important thing for kids (and often a very hard one for cash-strapped parents working multiple jobs to provide). Private acreage is most certainly not.
One notion that persists in the middle class globally is that "good parenting" requires conferring the full extent of the benefits of one's privilege and social status onto one's kids. Every parent I've ever encountered who left the diverse inner city for an exclusive, wealthy suburb cited the "good schools" (read: public schools held afloat by higher property tax revenue or exclusive private institutions) as the primary reason. And I don't doubt their good intentions there for a minute; giving one's own kids the "best" of what's available and securing them a high position on the social ladder supersedes all other middle-class virtues, even as it helps compound the disadvantages of kids in lower-income families.
With that in mind, the rich cabin-builders profiled here are merely expressing the widespread, individualist values shared by millions of far less wealthy people. I disagree with it personally, but it's not hard to imagine where it came from, considering that these people most likely grew up absolutely immersed in it.
katiehippie — August 5, 2014
I'm so tired of rich people being rich articles. This is almost as bad as the "I paid off $100,000 in a year!" stories. Those you always find out they are making half a million a year or something. Well, yeah, I could pay off that much too if I was making that much.
Bill R — August 5, 2014
The sad part about articles like this is that they're part of a trend to blame someone--anyone for the slow economic recovery and the growing gap in wealth. There are very wealthy people out there and its not going to change; get over it.
Steve — September 25, 2020
Is it wrong to dream? Have goals? I grew up in a middle-class family and was the first to graduate college, and although my parents didn’t have much, they did taught us hard work, frugality, and dreaming big. After busting my ass for the 15 years, me and my wife are able to buy a farmhouse and some land in north eastern Pennsylvania, far away from where we live in Los Angeles with the same dreams and aspirations of the person who this article is about. If you want something, work hard and go get it. Using terms like “privelage” leads to bitterness and resentment, and will hold you back from Achieving your goals. Comparison is the thief of joy.