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Flight attendants are not only friendly with their passengers, they’re also often super friendly with each other. This may be because especially gregarious people go into the profession, but it’s also an adaptation to a surprising structural feature of their job. It turns out that, on any given flight anywhere in the world, most flight attendants are meeting their co-workers for the very first time.
There are about 100,000 flight attendants in the U.S. alone and they get their flights through a process of bidding, one month at a time, one month ahead. Most really do “see the world,” as the old glamorized image of the intrepid stewardess suggests, instead of working the same route over and over again. As a result, explains Drew Whitelegg in Working the Skies, they rarely run into the same flight attendant twice.
This means that flight attendants must get to know one another quickly once they get on board. They need to do so to make food and beverage service efficient, to coordinate their actions in the tight galleys in which they work and, most importantly, so that they will trust one another if they are called upon to do what they are really there for: acting in an emergency, one that could theoretically happen within seconds of take-off. There’s no time to lose. “[F]rom the moment they board the plane,” writes Whitelegg, “these workers — even if complete strangers — begin constructing bonds.”
Their instant bonding is facilitated by their shared experiences and their “peculiar identity,” Whitelegg explains — few people understand their job and the airline industry deliberately misportays it — and also by a culture of confession. The galley has its own rules to which new flight attendants are socialized. So, even though the workers are always new, the workplace is predictable. Whitlegg describes how galley conversations during downtime tend to be extremely, sometimes excruciatingly personal. “The things you hear,” laughs Clare, a flight attendant for Continental, “I could write a book. The things you hear at 30,000 feet.” It’s the odd combination of a habit of bonding and the anonymity of strangers.
So, if you have the pleasure of taking a flight, spend a few minutes watching the surprising coordination of strangers who seem like old friends, and take a moment to appreciate the amazing way these workers have adapted to their very peculiar position.
Cross-posted at The Huffington Post, Pacific Standard, and Work in Progress.
Lisa Wade, PhD is an Associate Professor at Tulane University. She is the author of American Hookup, a book about college sexual culture; a textbook about gender; and a forthcoming introductory text: Terrible Magnificent Sociology. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram.
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PokaDot Dreams — September 3, 2013
We usually hear about teams being the most efficient and effective way to get work done, but, at least in my mind, the assumption is that team members know each other very well, and hence are able to work with each members strengths, and achieve a higher level of success. It is very interesting, then, to hear about these teams that have very little familiarity between the individual members, but still function at such a very high level of performance ( in regard to safety and life or death decisions that arise without warning)
It would be interesting to know if say Firefighters also have this kind of flexibility of working in informal teams.... the ones fighting the Fires now on CA, for instance.
I just always, kind of, assumed that teams required familiarity. Very interesting post.
kevin c — September 3, 2013
I'm a flight attendant with a major U.S. airline. The F/A job is ritual amid unpredictability. That is to say, our jobs are always the same only with different people--different customers, different coworkers. More broadly, the flight attendants job is also conformity amid dynamic thinking-- being able to handle the ritual of service procedures, while thinking outside the box during an emergency. This is why it's usually difficult to get hired as a flight attendant: few personality types can toggle easily between the two. People are usually either very subordinate or they are dynamic leaders, rarely both at the same time. Finding and hiring this personality type takes a lot of work.
This ability -- to serve others as a subordinate group member while also harboring creative, dynamic thinking-- is not only what gives flight attendants a sense of humor but also begets the instantaneous friendships that arise between us in our galleys. We have stories to tell, we're pretty interesting people. We already know most people could never do our jobs.
Agrajag — September 4, 2013
I sincerely doubt this is really true on "any given flight anywhere in the world", the airlines where I'm at (Norway) generally have their own attendants, and if a average work-day includes 3 or 4 flights, then in a year they'll have flown close to 1000 flights. Given that Norwegian employs only about 700 flight-attendants, and that there's on the order of 3 or 4 on every flight, it's mathemathically impossible that most of the ones on any given flight would be strangers.
On your 1000 flights, there's a sum of 2000-3000 flight-attendants (not including yourself), and those are selected from a pool of 700. So even with PERFECT randomization (which seems unlikely) you'll meet every single one 3 times a year.
But most attendants will be on some routes more often, for example the routes out of, and into their hometown, and thus it's more likely on any given flight, there's atleast 2 attendants who see eachother every week.
I doubt this situation is unique to Norway.
Seamus — September 4, 2013
Hi Lisa, I'm a HuffPost editor and interested in your piece. Please email me at: seamus.mckiernan@huffingtonpost.com
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Chris J — September 4, 2013
I'm a flight attendant for a major US airline and fly only international out of my base. For the last 18 years I've been at my base, I mostly fly with people I've flown with before. Only about 5% of the time will I meet someone new.
I would disagree with the author. It does happen, but you can't make a blanket statement and imply that we mostly fly with strangers.
edbotsko — September 4, 2013
I absolutely love friendly lady flight attendants...
LeahG — September 4, 2013
As a flight attendant for over 25 yrs for a Canadian airline (actually 3) I have some months of meeting mostly new FA's and some months of working with those I know. It also is because my last base was smaller (300ish) and so of course we got to fly with each other more often. My new base is much larger and I am meeting new FA's all the time... and don't forget to factor in the flight deck, though we don't work together with them in the service aspect we must rely on them in any emergency and they on us... that is where the real skills of the highly trained crew kick in. We know the drill, we are trained for the drill, just because I met you today or 25 years ago can not become a factor, we just kick in to gear and get the job done, helping each other out as a "team". It is a tough job... try serving 200 passengers then having to drop everything you are doing to attend to a sick passenger or bad turbulence? But I think the authors point is more to say that some prefer to lead, and some prefer to follow, as a flight attendant we are doing both.. often with people we do not see on a Mon-Fri familiarity like most employees.
R. Davis — September 4, 2013
I flew for twenty-one years for two major U.S. airlines. Left the industry in 2006. I always flew with the same people due to the small number of flight attendants at our base. Also, certain people enjoyed flying a very particular route so we were always together for those trips. By a fluke I served reserve very rarely from the time I started flying. The camaraderie among flight attendants is so special and important to enjoying the job overall. I can't imagine being based somewhere where you're literally a number and never fly with the same colleagues. Just too impersonal and something I never experienced. I think having my "family" of flying partners is something I miss the most and will treasure in my memories forever!
Susie Scatena — September 5, 2013
That bonding is absolutely my favorite part of my job. I work with amazing, fun and intelligent people. I am so fortunate.
Rosie posie — September 5, 2013
I fly and we call it crew therapy. You can tell your college your deepest darkest secret and discuss anything.. And I mean anything!!! I've flown for 16 years and love the galley talk at about 3/4am.
verbossity — September 5, 2013
I fly for a major US airline. I've been flying for over 23 years. Right this minute I am on a layover in Paris France. We had a crew of 9 flight attendants. I've never flown with any of them before. Yesterday, I came in from London we had a crew of 8 flight attendants. I have never flown with ANY of them before either, however we all took the tube into town ate dinner and saw a play together. We were like family after just one leg over. I'm NY based where we have over 4000 flight attendants. We have over 19,000 flight attendants system wide.
Max’s Weekly Mile High Affirmation | Bonnarootips News — September 5, 2013
[...] Just wanted to explain something from an article I read today which I think would explain to you more about me. This was written by Lisa Wade, a PHD, a professor of Sociology. (http://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2013/09/03/surprise-your-flight-attendants-are-all-strangers/) [...]
Pixulated — September 5, 2013
No wonder there is a mile high club then...
Brutus — September 5, 2013
Isn't the standard tour a work-week long or so? "For the first time" certainly doesn't mean "on that flight"- the logistics for handling that would be insane.
At the very least, I'd think the entire flight crew typically was on the same plane (as each other, if not the exact same plane as they are now) an hour ago, and will continue to be so in the future; that means that a delay or diversion of one flights only cascades to a delay on one additional flight, rather than a delay on every flight that was scheduled to have a crew member that isn't there.
Overboard Bob — September 5, 2013
I hear when staying at a hotel during a stop over they put some sort of indicator on the door if they're up for anonymous sex with their co-workers...Another part of getting to know each other quickly!
Enderson Rafael — September 5, 2013
Hi! I'm a flight attendant from Brazil, flying in a major airline here both domestic and international. In this 8 years of experience, I can tell you: your article is perfect! Congrats! I'm actually an author, and have a novel describing our weird life! It's called "Três Céus"(Three Skies), check it out http://www.endersonrafael.com.br
“Surpresa! Seus comissários de voo de hoje são completos estranhos!” | Enderson Rafael — September 5, 2013
[...] e amigo de galleys Jonatas Passarelli descobriu esse texto de sociologia maravilhoso que saiu aqui sobre comissários de voo. Como é raro falarem a verdade sobre nós, fiz questão de traduzí-lo [...]
Jason — September 6, 2013
I'm shocked.
Next you're going to tell me the pilots in the flight deck aren't best friends either...
getoverit — September 6, 2013
Agrajag - do you always feel the need to argue such minor points, when it's really not so important? Clearly the person who wrote the article has little knowledge of how the airline industry works, using only what information they've been provided with. It's not exactly investigative journalism and it would be unreasonable to expect the author to contact all airlines to question the frequency with which their F.A's fly with each other, when the point which was being written about is the fact that MANY, FA's don't fly together often etc (I'm sure I don't to repeat the article).
Having been a Flight Attendant for a EUROPEAN airline for 21 years, I can assure you that the article doesn't just apply to US airlines. When you add up all the major carriers around the world, including BA, Air France, Lufthansa, South African, Qantas, Air India, Singapore, Cathay, Virgin, Emirates, Gulf, Qatar, Air New Zealand, ANA, JAL, TAM, Air Canada, Avianca, Etihad, Iberia, Alitalia....and so on...then there are a LOT of FA's flying around the world ...and I can assure you a good number of them will be unfamiliar with each other, even if it's not all of them. So why not just take the article as it was meant....and an interesting point for those who had never given any thought about relationship between people doing a job which still fascinates the general public?
Chaz — September 6, 2013
Um, what airline do these flight attendants work for? I have never been on a flight with friendly anything.
gigi — September 6, 2013
The article, written for an US audience, is good. I have been in this carreer for a long time, still working for a major American carrier with almost 20000 F/As. I jumped to International almost immediately because I am a language speaker (several languages). I was also based in CDG (Paris) for 10 years. The size of the base and the destinations of the flights play an important role in how often you will fly with the same colleagues. Out of Houston, JFK, SFO or Dulles there are worldwide destinations - a vast choice and a large pool of F/As. The US domestic routes are numerous with thousands of flights daily that criss-cross this big country. It is rare to fly with the same people twice. As a language speaker to Europe, I fly with some of the same people sometimes. In our ex-CDG base, with a base of 400 F/As and 3 destinations only (IAD, ORD and SFO) on the average, I flew many times with the same ones. The article could not cover everything. I found everything written to be true and well described. This job is unique. The lifestyle is unique . The camaraderie unforgettable. It is truly apart. It is like a Prozac: we leave all our problems behind, close the door, take the suitcase and head for the airport : Ciao" Baby! Once I put my uniform on, I become another person. I am already gone.
SURPRISE! YOUR FLIGHT ATTENDANTS ARE ALL STRANGERS | JumpSeat Confessions — September 7, 2013
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Strangers In The Sky | The Penn Ave Post — September 9, 2013
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Surprise! Your Flight Attendants are All Strangers | Work in Progress — September 12, 2013
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pia louise — September 16, 2013
that is so awesome! and i thank a former fly gal pal for sharing this article about our kooky but kool lifestyle
XPANAM — December 12, 2013
We call the sharing of personal stories and bonding "jumpseat therapy"! I worked for Pan Am and I am still 'close' with the people I 'never' met while I was flying! We always felt more 'at home' on the airplane than we did at home and our lives were so different from our hometown friends that it caused a separation. We made that up by being immediately connected to the people we flew with - even if it was the first time we'd ever met.