New interest in the virgjinesha inspires us to re-post our coverage from 2012.
Rigid gender roles often inspire creative solutions. Families in Afghanistan, for example, when they have all girls, often pick a daughter to pretend to be a boy until puberty. The child can then run errands, get a job, and chaperone “his” sisters in public (all things girls aren’t allowed to do). The transition is sudden and doesn’t involve relocation, so the entire community knows that the child is a girl. They just pretend nothing at all strange is going on. In fact, it’s not strange. It happens quite routinely.
A similar phenomenon emerged in Albania in the 1400s. Inter-group warfare had left a dearth of men in many communities. Since rights and responsibilities were strongly sex-typed, some families needed a “man” to accomplish certain things like buy land and pass down wealth.
In response, some girls became “virgjinesha,” or sworn virgins. A sworn virgin was a socially-recognized man for the rest of “his” life (so long as the oath was kept). Many girls would take the oath after their father died.
There are only about forty sworn virgins left; as women were granted more and more rights, fewer and fewer girls felt the need to adopt a male identity for themselves or their families.
Some of the remaining virgjinesha were featured in a New York Times slideshow. Quotes from two individuals:
After becoming a man, Qamile Stema [below] said she could leave the house and chop wood with other men. She also carried a gun. At wedding parties, she sat with men. When she talked to women, she recalled, they recoiled in shyness.
Qamile Stema said she would die a virgin. Had she married, she joked, it would have been to a traditional Albanian woman. “I guess you could say I was partly a woman and partly a man, but of course I never did everything a man does,” she said. “I liked my life as a man. I have no regrets.”
Photographer Jill Peters has also captured images of sworn virgins.
Lisa Wade, PhD is an Associate Professor at Tulane University. She is the author of American Hookup, a book about college sexual culture; a textbook about gender; and a forthcoming introductory text: Terrible Magnificent Sociology. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram.
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Tom Megginson — September 11, 2012
Fascinating. Thank you for teaching me something new today, Lisa.
Theodore — September 11, 2012
There is actually a folk tale about this tradition, its called "The Girl who Became a Boy":
http://albanianliterature.net/oral_lit1/OL1-07.html
Chris — September 11, 2012
This is interesting; although I had heard of families pretending a girl was a boy, I did not know it happened legally, or that the girls could be men for their entire lives. I wonder if the government would still allow a family to recognize such paperwork sex changes, or if that would be too controversial. Thank you for sharing!
Julie — September 11, 2012
How can people embrace the idea of havning women pose as men and expect such women to be fully capable of doing everything men can do in this way, all without realizing that, since this demonstrates that women CAN do the same things that men can, defining what they can and can't do by gender, and thus having such a concept of women posing as men for this purpose, is totally ridiculous and unnecessary?
Laurel Walker — September 11, 2012
This is so interesting; something that I'd never heard of. Thanks so much for blogging about it.
mimimur — September 12, 2012
Makes you wonder a bit about the role that gender identity and sexuality fit into this. It would be interesting to see.
anonymous — September 13, 2012
Curious about these folks' preferred gender pronouns...
Guest — September 13, 2012
I know a female linguist who underwent a ceremony to declare her officially a man in the community she works with, because the only surviving speakers of the language she works on were male, and wanted to be able to pass on to her important stories, songs and information that they were not allowed to divulge to women.
McLicious (Sarah Hannah Gómez) — September 18, 2012
These ladies look pretty good for being 600 years old!
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sunandmoon — January 2, 2013
Love to see that there's more discussion of gender variance on this blog! However, I find it really strange that there's no mention of trans identity in this article. Granted I'm not a part of these cultures, but I am trans, and I wonder if part of these social conditions allowed a space for trans phenomena to be publicly expressed. Rather than couching it in terms of "needing to adopt an identity" and referring to them as women, it could actually be that they identify as men and the sworn virgin tag is a way they are socially allowed to express that. I also find it really strange that no mention of current gender variant identities in these cultures was discussed. If there are now fewer sworn virgins, there may be more trans men or a culturally specific ftm identity, what is life like for them? Has social acceptance of gender variance shifted or decreased in Albania, forcing trans men/gender variant people to go underground?
Again, I'm not a part of these cultures but I would like to see this discussion complicated a bit and expanded from the subtle necessary evil tone of this article. Also, if they identify as men, why are they referred to by female pronouns in this article and when they are referred to as he it's in quotations, such as "he"?
Therese Shechter — August 25, 2013
This reminds me a bit of the stories of the Vestal Virgins of ancient Rome. They were virgins not because of the need for purity but the need for autonomy. Entrusted with huge responsibilities of maintaining the Temple of Vesta and all its riches, they could not be under the influence of a husband. The only way to do that was by swearing virginity for their 30-year terms.
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Bill — September 8, 2014
Currently, don't we have lesbians assuming a male role in their relationships with their female partners? Their dress, mannerisms and protectiveness of their "mate" seem to demonstrate strong male characteristics.