Yes, it has been a week since I returned from San Francisco. I will be the first to admit it has taken me longer to recover from the two-conferences-in-a-row experience than I anticipated. Hence the crickets chirping over here. Seeing Kara Jesella’s piece on the BlogHer conference in the New York Times today reminded me that there is still a lot more I want to say about my experience.

One session in particular has been on my mind since I returned: “Beautiful Blogging and Positive Posting.” The title initially set off my snark alarm, but I forged ahead because I knew Alyssa Royse from Just Cause It and Off the Rocks (a new blog she’s writing with her husband, following his arrest for a DUI–“because we’re not pathetic and destitute, we’re just dealing with the worst f*ing situation of our lives”) would be speaking, and I think she’s doing some amazing work. Also on the bill were Lucrecer Braxton from Art Slam, Krystyn Heide from HopeRevo, Jen of oneplustwo, and Kyran Pittman of Notes to Self.

Alyssa mentioned that her young daughter recently came to her and asked, “Mommy, is there any good news in the world?” Ouch. The short answer to that question is yes, there is. And that’s ultimately what positive posting is all about. As many of the panelists pointed out, the topics we post about don’t have to fluffy and cute (although I personally enjoy some fluffy cuteness here and there). We don’t have to ignore that injustice, suffering, and media b.s. exist–and we don’t have to hold back our anger about it either. The point is that we need to start talking about the difference between a snark-filled rant and a post that inspires something positive in our readers. Here are a few key tenets of “positive posting” that came up:

Positive: A blog or post that serves as a catalyst for social change in the real world
Positive: A blog or post that aims to break through a taboo topic and overcome social stigma
Positive: A blog or post that builds connections through honesty

Magali and I try our best to make 5 Resolutions a combination of all three of these. We started talking publicly about our eating disorders and body image issues because we wanted to break through the silence and misconceptions surrounding these issues. We launched a blog and a network to build connections and bring about change. At the end of the day, positive posting isn’t so much a particular approach to blogging as it is what naturally happens when you have a hopeful approach to life. That said, I think it’s important to remind ourselves of what makes a positive post as we’re writing (and reading other blogs for that matter). We might not hit the mark every time, but we think it’s important to try.

Cross posted at 5 Resolutions.