Gloria Feldt is a sanity-inducing voice in the midst of the generational snarkfest that’s currently going on. I’m sharing her comment on my last post here, as a post, because I wonder if I ever shy away from the flames of controversy just a wee bit too much. (Hmm…paging Dr. Freud!)

I truly believe in engaging debate and viciously hate the anger-filled tone that debate seems to have taken on of late. Doth Girl with Pen protest too much? I’d be curious to hear what others think about tactics for airing differences. How do we clear a space for argument, as Gloria urges below, in a way that genuinely moves debate forward? (And doesn’t this image of Gloria on an IPOD just make your day?)

In any event, one of the many things I value about Gloria is her ability to engage–meaning debate and differ–with younger generations while maintaining a deep sense of respect. And here she is:

Deborah-
I couldn’t agree more with your suggested course of action to defeat McCain together. That’s the job #1 of all feminists for sure.

At the same time, I want to put in a good word for engaging the debate even when it is with gloves off. I suggest that what women need most is to learn how to engage vigorously and constructively without being turned off or frightened off.

Like you, I believe we shouldn’t trash each other, but (probably because I’ve had lots of experience with hardknuckle conflict and know that one lives to tell the tale–and even learns and grows stronger from it), I think we need to clear a space for arguing about the issues together with the goal of not just understanding but making concrete plans to go forward on matters like winning the general election.

Every generation has to speak in its own tongue. We don’t have to be angry with one another to air our differences.
Gloria Feldt