Cross posted on the Family Inequality blog.
Disability is a very broad concept, representing a wide array of conditions that are not easily captured in a simple demographic survey. However, disabilities are very prevalent, especially in an aging society, and the people who experience disabilities differ in important ways from those who do not. Previously I reported — in a preliminary way — that people with disabilities are much more likely to divorce than those without. Here I present some numbers on marriage rates.
This isn’t the kind of thorough, probing analysis this subject requires. But I have two reasons to do it now. First is that I hope to motivate other people to pursue this issue in greater depth. And second, I want to highlight the importance of the data I’m using — the American Community Survey (ACS) — because it might be not available for much longer. These questions have been slated for demolition by the U.S. Census Bureau on cost-saving grounds. I put details about this issue — and how to register your opinion with the federal government — at the end of the post.
Disabilities
The ACS asks five disability questions (I put the shorthand label after each):
- Is this person deaf or does he/she have serious difficulty hearing? (Hearing)
- Is this person blind or does he/she have serious difficulty seeing even when wearing glasses? (Vision)
- Because of a physical, mental, or emotional condition, does this person have serious difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions? (Cognitive)
- Does this person have serious difficulty walking or climbing stairs? (Ambulatory)
- Does this person have difficulty dressing or bathing? (Independent living)
These aren’t perfect questions, but they cover a lot of ground, and the ACS — which involves about 3 million households — can’t get into too much detail.
One great thing about having these questions on the giant ACS is you can use the data to get all the way down to the local level, or into small race/ethnic groups. And with the marital events questions, you can combine disability information and marriage information.
First-marriage rates
Using marital events (did you get married in the last year), marital history (how many times have you been married), detailed race and ethnicity breakdowns, and the disability questions above, I produced the following figure. This uses the combined 2008-2012 ACS data because these are small groups, but even with five years of data these groups get quite small. There are about 90,000 non-Hispanic Whites with a cognitive disability in my sample, but only 356 people who are both White and American Indian with a hearing disability (the smallest group I included). This sample is people ages 18-49 who have never been married (or just got married).
The overall first-marriage rate for people ages 18-49 is 71.8 per 1,000. For people with disabilities it’s 41.1 (shown by the blue line). So that’s much lower than for the general population. But there is a very wide variation across these groups, from 15.5 per thousand for Blacks with disabilities in independent living all the way up to above the national average for Whites and White/American Indians with hearing disabilities. (For every condition, Blacks with disabilities have the lowest marriage rates.)
I don’t draw any conclusions here, except that this is an important subject and I hope more people will study it. Also, we need data like this.
In previous posts demonstrating the value of this data source, I wrote about:
- Divorce generally
- Divorce for “millennials” in 25 cities
- Divorce for Asian Americans from different national origins
Whether you are a researcher or some other member of the concerned public, I hope you will consider dropping the government a line about this before the end of the year.
The information about the planned cuts to the American Community Survey is here: https://www.federalregister.gov/articles/2014/10/31/2014-25912/proposed-information-collection-comment-request-the-american-community-survey-content-review-results:
Direct all written comments to Jennifer Jessup, Departmental Paperwork Clearance Officer, Department of Commerce, Room 6616, 14th and Constitution Avenue NW., Washington, DC 20230 (or via the Internet at jjessup@doc.gov).
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James Morris — May 1, 2015
I have a disability (Cerebral Palsy) and I've been haunted my whole life by the question of whether I'll ever be married. Frankly, the number you came up with is higher than I would've thought. Still, it's a pain that's the able-bodied just can't relate to.
Jennifer Rellick — June 28, 2015
As a public policy researcher with an ambulatory and self-care disability, I believe these data are of value to both labor economists and disability advocates. Keep in mind that the following research findings on marriage come from the era of heterosexual marriage only. For men, marriage is strongly predictive of future income. Labor economists have sorted out that marriage does not cause higher incomes, but high income potential makes it easier for a man to find a spouse.. For women, early marriage is associated with lower earned income, but the loss is offset by the income of the husband. For high income women, marriage is likely to occur later, and their husbands have good incomes, but not as good as the men who married young wives.. The bottom line is that income potential has effects on marriage for both men and women.
People with disabilities face the highest unemployment rates of any demographic, and the published unemployment rate does not include the millions who have given up on ever finding a job. I suspect that,income and marriage will be correlated for people with disabilities., I think that people with disabilities experience what economists call "social distance," which explains our difficulties in the job market and marriage market.
Yesterday the Supreme Court ruled that marriage is a fundamental right for any two people. Unfortunately for me and many of my disabled friends, it is a right we have a faint hope of exercising. Disability discrimination is often explained away as stemming from disabled people not being qualified for the job. But who can seriously say that disabled people are unqualified for love and life partnership? These data can help advocates confront our nation with the reality of ableism and the attitudes that exclude us. I hope these data continue to be collected.
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Jim Rousch — July 1, 2016
Much of the problem is due to the fact that families of people with developmental disabilities won't allow them to marry-which is actually a violation of the 14th Amendment.
Not only does my girlfriend have CP, not only do I have TBI, but I'm also an active member of both the Democratic Party and the ACLU.
Believe me when I tell you that politics has EVERYTHING to do with this. Sure, George H.W. Bush signed ADA during the heat of a midterm election campaign, but another reason why the legislation was signed was because the Democratic Senate would have overridden his veto.
Rand Paul wants to repeal ADA, giving STATES power over whether or not we have rights. While he's no longer running for President, he'll be in the Senate.
Anyone who wants to maintain their civil rights as Americans and as human beings must vote for Hillary Clinton-especially when one considers that the next president will pick as many as FOUR Supreme Court justices.
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Would their marriages last if you could bring sex back to their lives?
Paula McLean — February 11, 2017
I just thought I should mention that gender differences do occur. Females with disability much less likely to marry than males. I guess we don't rate as arm candy1
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Bill chaffee — July 11, 2018
I’m a 67 year old virgin with cerebral palsy. However the lack of sexual experience doesn’t bother me as much as the lack of affection and companionship. Apparently wanting to be held is considered to be a feminine trait. Gender dysphoria is part of the equation but I’m not sexually attracted to men.
The misdiagnosis of my CP as psychological problem contributed to my isolation. My CP went undiagnosed until I was 37 1/2 three weeks before my father died. My father had said to me “I think your problems are more imaginary than real”.
Bridgid Schwilling — July 20, 2018
Bill,
I am so sorry that you long for companionship and affection. I can relate because I am a 48 year old woman with the same feelings of loneliness. What really hurts is that many people assume a person with a physical disability does not have the same dreams, needs, or desires that they do.I am also sorry for your father’s attitude. Unfortunately there are parents who cannot accept that their child has a disability and they end up blaming the child. I hope you know that you are worthy of love and that there is a purpose for your life and meaning in it, even when you feel alone and lonely. I have to tell myself that. Best wishes and prayers for you!
Bridgid Schwilling — July 20, 2018
I forgot to say that I also have Cerebral Palsy.
Kim Mast — October 21, 2018
I was not born with a disability... it showed it's ugly face when I was 27... loving life and eager about what my future held for me! Little did I know, that I would be diagnosed with RRMS. Fast forward to 2011...I was in an abusive relationship, ended up pregnant and moving back home to burden my family. I met the love of my life and the ONLY man my son has called dad. He proposed and I said yes. In 2015 we married... now my husband is not rich by any means nor am I!?! I worked my whole adult life up until my son was born, living on SSDI with a baby is Not what I had planned for my life or my child's. With MS, I AM able to be a wife and a mother, but with MS i am NOT able to pay the medical bills that have accrued and now have hurt my credit and more importantly, my right as a human being to be happy!?! I am now in the midst of filing for divorce. Where more so when do I get to be happy?!? This is killing me...I know i'm not the only one going thru this... but, i'm going to be selfish for once... THIS FRICKING SUCKS!! SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE!! It maybe too late for me but, if my son has to deal with this later on in life with the possibility of him being diagnosed with MS...I will lose my sh@t on someone... this is NOT fair. I worked, I've given my all when I could and this is what I get?! No right to be happy and in a loving marriage?!? I will mention to that I have 4 older siblings 2 of which are disabled as well. One married someone who in fact has a disability herself. I was not warned nor counseled by ANYONE that MARRIAGE for me would be a mistake and frowned upon because of my disability. Now i'm not a "writer"nor a person of high intelligence... but, isn't this deemed as discrimination?!? Like I said, this has to change, allow us to be happy and live the fairy tale we were told as children would be our God given right and MY Right as a human being.
Ryan — November 19, 2018
I am a 44 year old male with cerebral palsy. I was married for 20 years until my ex divorced me in 2014. It took me 20 years to have any kind of real relationship and it was my first with my now ex. I have been single for 4 years and I really don't know if I will ever find anyone else. I do not have to be married, but it would be nice to find someone to share life with before I get old. That scares me even worse. Being old and single with CP. Not a fun thing to look forward to in my opinion.
Margie Cord — May 6, 2019
I have mild cp! Early 2000 I dated someone like me but he did me wrong I dumped him for it! There are so many opinions of people with disabilities! Family to friends to strangers! I fell in love with 2 guy friends they treated me with more respect than half of this world! They loved me only as a friend only! They will always be my Friends! It might of been cause of religion too! I’ve heard a lot that no guy would like me cause of my disabilities! There were rood guy who I thought were friends!
Jacob Rathbun — October 9, 2019
I have cerebral palsy, I am a full time college student, Art major. I am an artist, a writer, a Christian, and singer. I think people forget about the fact that the ones of us with disabilities have the same mental processes as them. I may only mild cerebral palsy, but that doesn't mean I'm helpless. The disability doesn't mean that any of us are. It just means that we have more challenges. Notice challenges make us who we are. If you ask me yes I'm going to say that I'm lonely but at the same time I'm also going to say that I'm waiting for the person who who understands. The challenges don't make us weak they make us stronger people don't see that cuz they see something that they aren't supposedly better than. don't let it get to you cuz you are perfect you are Who You Are for a reason. Trust me 18 years and 16 surgeries and technically I'm not supposed to be alive, I good outlook I hope that you can see it too.
Joel Reeves — March 1, 2021
Thank you for this article, I for years thought the reason why I was alone and lonely was because of me, something I did, how I know I was predestined to be alone from birth. I was born with a disability, this article help me to realize it doesn’t matter how smart, funny or how much a gentleman I am it will not change peoples opinion of me, I will always be alone and lonely.
Martin Don Lykke — October 23, 2021
I have a learning disability and add and have been to many support groups. Most of them indicate that some ADHD and LD people have social skills deficient and trouble with emotional maturity including low self esteem and confidence.
Theresa — August 15, 2022
I am 54. My husband passed away in March of this year. He always said I was beautiful..I think he was just being sweet. I had a severe stroke 4 years ago, I had chances that weren't positive, but he was with me and I recovered except my left leg is such that I require a cane,, and I am not a model,, unless the model was a conjoined twin. At this point I have no want to date or anything. We had a great life, he left me well. But most of all, I am very happens when older women get older, many find the absolute wrong person, and have the end of their lives regretting the relationship and sometimes, with a lot security that they used to have.
Doora — June 12, 2023
Nice
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