{"id":2764,"date":"2019-11-14T10:28:47","date_gmt":"2019-11-14T16:28:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/?p=2764"},"modified":"2019-11-14T10:28:48","modified_gmt":"2019-11-14T16:28:48","slug":"family-meal-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/2019\/11\/14\/family-meal-conflict\/","title":{"rendered":"Family Meal Conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"580\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/files\/2019\/11\/Norman-Rockwell-Thanksgiving-580x600.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2768\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/files\/2019\/11\/Norman-Rockwell-Thanksgiving-580x600.png 580w, https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/files\/2019\/11\/Norman-Rockwell-Thanksgiving-290x300.png 290w, https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/files\/2019\/11\/Norman-Rockwell-Thanksgiving.png 764w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 580px) 100vw, 580px\" \/><figcaption>Peaceful holiday meals may still be the ideal, but they are not the norm. The image shows part of a World War II propaganda poster by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nrm.org\/\">Norman Rockwell<\/a>, proclaiming, &#8220;OURS&#8230; to fight for: Freedom from want,&#8221; via <a href=\"https:\/\/commons.wikimedia.org\/wiki\/File:%22Freedom_From_Want%22_-_NARA_-_513710.jpg\" data-rel=\"lightbox-image-0\" data-rl_title=\"\" data-rl_caption=\"\" title=\"\">Wikimedia Commons<\/a>. <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>As we prepare for Thanksgiving, many people look forward to sharing a warm meal with their family and friends. Others dread the holiday, gearing up to argue with their relatives or answer nosey questions. <a href=\"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/2018\/11\/19\/table-talk-for-thanksgiving\/\">TSP has written about the political minefield that holiday meals can be in the past.<\/a> This year we want to point out that the roots of difficult dinners actually run deep in everyday family mealtime. Thanksgiving, like any family mealtime, has the potential for conflict.\u00a0<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Scholars have documented how important meal time can be for families in terms of cultivating relationships and family intimacy. However, they also show that despite widespread belief that families should share \u201chappy meals\u201d together, meals can be emotionally painful and difficult for some families and family members.<br><\/h5>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><a href=\"https:\/\/cla.umn.edu\/about\/directory\/profile\/meierann\">Ann Meier<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.human.cornell.edu\/people\/kam386\">Kelly Musick<\/a>. 2014. \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/doi\/full\/10.1111\/jomf.12079\">Variation in Associations Between Family Dinners and Adolescent Well\u2010Being<\/a>.\u201d <em>Journal of Marriage and Family<\/em> 76(1):13\u201323.<\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/indiana.academia.edu\/RichardWilk\">Richard Wilk<\/a>. 2010. \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1177\/1532708610372764\">Power at the Table: Food Fights and Happy Meals<\/a>.\u201d <em>Cultural Studies \u2194 Critical Methodologies<\/em> 10(6):428\u201336. <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Disagreements between parents and children arise at mealtime, in part, because of the meal itself. Some caregivers go to battle with \u201cpicky eaters.\u201d Migrant parents struggle to pass cultural food traditions to children born in the United States. Low income parents worry that their children will not like or eat the food they can afford.<br><\/h5>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nursing.umn.edu\/bio\/faculty-staff\/jayne-fulkerson\">Jayne A. Fulkerson<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/globalhealth.duke.edu\/people\/faculty\/story-mary\">Mary Story<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/directory.sph.umn.edu\/bio\/sph-a-z\/dianne-neumark-sztainer\">Dianne Neumark-Sztainer<\/a>, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/sarah-rydell-9400746\/\">Sarah Rydell<\/a>. 2008. \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/pii\/S0002822308000060\">Family  Meals: Perceptions of Benefits and Challenges among Parents of 8- to 10-Year-Old Children<\/a>.\u201d <em>Journal of the American Dietetic Association<\/em> 108(4):706\u20139.<\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sarahkbowen.com\/\">Sarah Bowen<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/faculty.ithaca.edu\/jbrenton\/\">Joslyn Brenton<\/a>, and <a href=\"https:\/\/sociology.ubc.ca\/profile\/sinikka-elliott\/\">Sinikka Elliott<\/a>. 2019. <em><a href=\"https:\/\/books.google.com\/books?hl=en&amp;lr=&amp;id=yPeFDwAAQBAJ&amp;oi=fnd&amp;pg=PP1&amp;dq=+Sarah+Bowen,+Joslyn+Brenton,+and+Sinikka+Elliott.+2019.+Pressure+Cooker:+Why+Home+Cooking+Won%E2%80%99t+Solve+Our+Problems+and+What+We+Can+Do+about+It.+New+York,+NY:+Oxford+University+Press.+&amp;ots=oVb9eH-MJa&amp;sig=bCV2Hhm1jpwdcsUA8PqFcbHSc28#v=onepage&amp;q=Sarah%20Bowen%2C%20Joslyn%20Brenton%2C%20and%20Sinikka%20Elliott.%202019.%20Pressure%20Cooker%3A%20Why%20Home%20Cooking%20Won%E2%80%99t%20Solve%20Our%20Problems%20and%20What%20We%20Can%20Do%20about%20It.%20New%20York%2C%20NY%3A%20Oxford%20University%20Press.&amp;f=false\">Pressure Cooker: Why Home Cooking Won\u2019t Solve Our Problems and What We Can Do about It<\/a><\/em>. New York, NY: Oxford University Press. <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Family meals also reproduce conflict between heterosexual partners. Buying, preparing, and serving food are important ways that women fulfill gendered expectations. At family meal-times men continue to do less work but hold more power about how and when dinner is served.<br><\/h5>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.maxwell.syr.edu\/soc\/DeVault,_Marjorie\/\">Marjorie L. DeVault<\/a>, 1991. <em><a href=\"https:\/\/books.google.com\/books?hl=en&amp;lr=&amp;id=TS4MQ-fS_ygC&amp;oi=fnd&amp;pg=PR7&amp;dq=+Marjorie+L.+DeVault,+1991.+Feeding+the+Family:+The+Social+Organization+of+Caring+as+Gendered+Work.+Chicago:+University+of+Chicago+Press.&amp;ots=450-4NjsyF&amp;sig=w4NdeEykzXOsT4QlIaYqcEYmfM0#v=onepage&amp;q=Marjorie%20L.%20DeVault%2C%201991.%20Feeding%20the%20Family%3A%20The%20Social%20Organization%20of%20Caring%20as%20Gendered%20Work.%20Chicago%3A%20University%20of%20Chicago%20Press.&amp;f=false\">Feeding the Family: The Social Organization of Caring as Gendered Work<\/a>. <\/em>Chicago: University of Chicago Press.<\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/childhood.camden.rutgers.edu\/faculty\/kate-cairns\/\">Kate Cairns<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/joseejohnston.com\/\">Jos\u00e9e Johnston<\/a>. 2015. <em><a href=\"https:\/\/books.google.com\/books?hl=en&amp;lr=&amp;id=1YYvCgAAQBAJ&amp;oi=fnd&amp;pg=PP1&amp;dq=+Kate+Cairns+and+Jos%C3%A9e+Johnston.+2015.+Food+and+Femininity.+London%3B+New+York:+Bloomsbury+Publishing.+&amp;ots=D8vOgflzRk&amp;sig=BFqqsS0GSQ6XEco3LzSxospkqhw#v=onepage&amp;q=Kate%20Cairns%20and%20Jos%C3%A9e%20Johnston.%202015.%20Food%20and%20Femininity.%20London%3B%20New%20York%3A%20Bloomsbury%20Publishing.&amp;f=false\">Food and Femininity<\/a>.<\/em> London; New York: Bloomsbury Publishing. <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Thanksgiving, or any big holiday meal, can involve disagreements. However, that is not altogether surprising considering that everyday family meals are full of conflicts and tension. <br><\/h5>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Family tensions that arise during holiday meal times are often rooted in bigger social conflicts and play out differently depending on a family&#8217;s social location.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1952,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[15,55,13,85,14,1],"tags":[122686,35,2513,38543,122684,329,70,30,1994,38541,32433,122683,122687,4374,8962,122685,2086,26507],"class_list":["post-2764","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-culture","category-gender","category-inequality","category-politics","category-race","category-uncategorized","tag-childrearing","tag-children","tag-conflict","tag-culture","tag-disagreement","tag-emotion","tag-family","tag-food","tag-holiday","tag-inequality","tag-intimacy","tag-meals","tag-mealtime","tag-parenting","tag-parents","tag-tension","tag-thanksgiving","tag-tradition"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2764","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1952"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2764"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2764\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2773,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2764\/revisions\/2773"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2764"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2764"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/trot\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2764"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}