{"id":4004,"date":"2012-02-13T18:53:27","date_gmt":"2012-02-13T23:53:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/thickculture\/?p=4004"},"modified":"2012-02-13T22:20:38","modified_gmt":"2012-02-14T03:20:38","slug":"facebook-parenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/thickculture\/2012\/02\/13\/facebook-parenting\/","title":{"rendered":"Facebook Parenting"},"content":{"rendered":"

This video<\/a> of a parent unloading a clip in his daughter’s laptop in response to an angry post has gone viral and judging by the comments<\/a>\u00a0(on Facebook ironically enough)\u00a0the video has touched a nerve.<\/p>\n\"YouTube<\/a><\/span><\/span>\n

This performance highlights a nagging sense among many parents that we have lost our way as a culture (and that social media is somehow responsible). \u00a0It in essence is tapping into a fantasy we have as parents that if we just practiced “tough love” and didn’t “spare the rod,” all would be fine. \u00a0Our children wouldn’t use Facebook and we would have proper, obedient, technology free children. \u00a0But the reality is that “tough love” won’t stop teens from wanting to have a separate space from parents. \u00a0I agree with the general sentiment many of the commenters posted regarding setting boundaries, but shooting a laptop isn’t teaching a lesson, it’s venting. \u00a0 In my view, discipline has to come from a position of detached, dispassionate calm. \u00a0If discipline comes from anger, its hard to separate out what is in the best interest of your child and what’s just you “blowing off steam.” \u00a0If you watch this video, you can’t help but be struck by how much “venting” is going on as he is shooting his daughter’s laptop. \u00a0I’ve been angry like that before… there’s a lot of pain and disappointment underneath the bravado.<\/p>\n

The main problem is that Facebook creates a “separate space” from parents where their content is recorded for posterity. \u00a0If the daughter could have vented without a digital transcript, the parent’s would have been none the wiser and the world would have been spared an ugly viral video. \u00a0This is the challenging and frustrating thing about our age — we’re not changing our core emotional make-ups, we’re losing discretion and discernment as to when we should express emotions.<\/p>\n

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