{"id":22081,"date":"2010-03-28T09:34:16","date_gmt":"2010-03-28T14:34:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/?p=22081"},"modified":"2011-08-02T03:08:32","modified_gmt":"2011-08-02T08:08:32","slug":"trivilizing-domestic-violence-a-kiss-with-a-fist-video","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/2010\/03\/28\/trivilizing-domestic-violence-a-kiss-with-a-fist-video\/","title":{"rendered":"Trivializing Domestic Violence: &#8220;A Kiss with a Fist&#8221; Video"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Liz C. sent in the video for the song &#8220;A Kiss with a Fist (Is Better Than None)&#8221; by Florence and the Machine. She analyzes it nicely:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>The lyrics seem to condone domestic violence, and the video seems to trivialize it, in the sense that the lead singer prances and jumps around while singing about getting punched in the face, having her leg broken, and having plates broken over her head by her partner, while she, in turn, hits and slaps him, breaks his jaw, and refers to &#8220;The Burning Bed&#8221; by setting fire to their bed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align:center\"><object width=\"480\" height=\"385\" codebase=\"http:\/\/download.macromedia.com\/pub\/shockwave\/cabs\/flash\/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\"><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" \/><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\" \/><param name=\"src\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/tpsDegqioVA&amp;hl=en_US&amp;fs=1&amp;\" \/><param name=\"allowfullscreen\" value=\"true\" \/><\/object><\/p>\n<p>The lyrics:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>You hit me once<br \/>\nI hit you back<br \/>\nYou gave a kick<br \/>\nI gave a slap<br \/>\nYou smashed a plate over my head<br \/>\nThen I set fire to our bed<\/p>\n<p>You hit me once<br \/>\nI hit you back<br \/>\nYou gave a kick<br \/>\nI gave a slap<br \/>\nYou smashed a plate over my head<br \/>\nThen I set fire to our bed<\/p>\n<p>My black eye casts no shadow<br \/>\nYour red eye sees nothing<br \/>\nYour slap don&#8217;t stick<br \/>\nYour kicks don&#8217;t hit<br \/>\nSo we remain the same<br \/>\nLove sticks<br \/>\nSweat drips<br \/>\nBreak the lock if it don&#8217;t fit<\/p>\n<p>A kick to the teeth is good for some<br \/>\nA kiss with a fist is better then none<\/p>\n<p>A kiss with a fist is better then none<\/p>\n<p>I broke your jaw once before<br \/>\nI spilled your blood upon the floor<br \/>\nYou broke my leg in return<br \/>\nSo sit back and watch the bed burn<br \/>\nLove sticks<br \/>\nSweat drips<br \/>\nBreak the lock if it don&#8217;t fit<\/p>\n<p>A kick to the teeth is good for some<br \/>\nA kiss with a fist is better then none<\/p>\n<p>A kiss with a fist is better then none<\/p>\n<p>You hit me once<br \/>\nI hit you back<br \/>\nYou gave a kick<br \/>\nI gave a slap<br \/>\nYou smashed a plate over my head<br \/>\nThen I set fire to our bed<\/p>\n<p>You hit me once<br \/>\nI hit you back<br \/>\nYou gave a kick<br \/>\nI gave a slap<br \/>\nYou smashed a plate over my head<br \/>\nThen I set fire to our bed<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>UPDATE: Reader Kyle pointed out another example, Chester French&#8217;s video for the song &#8220;She Loves Everybody.&#8221; He asks whether we can imagine seeing this video if the gender roles were reversed:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center\"><object width=\"540\" height=\"385\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/TLIWLEJzqYc&amp;hl=en_US&amp;fs=1&amp;\"><\/param><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\"><\/param><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\"><\/param><\/object><\/p>\n<p>And commenter Dave gave us a link to a recent discussion of this topic at <a href=\"http:\/\/jezebel.com\/5411983\/the-cyclical-nature-of-songs-about-sexual-violence\">Jezebel<\/a>.<br \/>\nAlso see our post on <a href=\"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/2009\/05\/31\/sexualized-violence-in-a-lady-gaga-video\/\">sexualized violence in Lady Gaga&#8217;s &#8220;Paparazzi&#8221; video<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Liz C. sent in the video for the song &#8220;A Kiss with a Fist (Is Better Than None)&#8221; by Florence and the Machine. She analyzes it nicely: The lyrics seem to condone domestic violence, and the video seems to trivialize it, in the sense that the lead singer prances and jumps around while singing about [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":50,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[55,2090,133],"class_list":["post-22081","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-gender","tag-gender-violence","tag-violence"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22081","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/50"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22081"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22081\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":38130,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22081\/revisions\/38130"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22081"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22081"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22081"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}