{"id":21959,"date":"2010-03-31T10:49:23","date_gmt":"2010-03-31T15:49:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/?p=21959"},"modified":"2017-09-16T21:34:21","modified_gmt":"2017-09-17T02:34:21","slug":"guest-post-lay-off-married-men-jilted-wife-successfully-sues-mistress","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/2010\/03\/31\/guest-post-lay-off-married-men-jilted-wife-successfully-sues-mistress\/","title":{"rendered":"“Lay Off” Married Men – Jilted Wife Successfully Sues Mistress"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cross-posted at Jezebel<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

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\n…Good Morning America<\/em> interviewed<\/a> Cynthia Shackelford, who won $9 million in a lawsuit against her husband’s mistress last week. When asked what she’d like to tell cheating spouses<\/em>, Shackelford puts all the blame on other women:<\/p>\n

My main message is to all those women out there who might have their eyes on some guy that is married to not come between anybody… Lay off… It’s not good to go in there. It hurts the children. My children are devastated. I’m devastated.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Hear that ladies? Stop targeting happily married men, drugging them, and forcing them to have sex with you. Think of the children!<\/p>\n

But wait \u2014 is it possible mistress Anne Lundquist<\/a> isn’t the only one to blame for Shackelford’s divorce? A jury in North Carolina, one of only seven states to allow “alienation of affection<\/a>” lawsuits, certainly thinks she’s at fault, but Allan Shackelford<\/a> posted a statement (in the third person, no less!) on the Greensboro News & Record<\/em> website<\/a>. Note the twist at the end!<\/p>\n

Allan Shackelford and Cynthia Shackelford had significant problems in their marriage for years, including three rounds of marital counseling that failed. Allan Shackelford had been involved in numerous affairs going back to the first two years of their marriage. Cynthia Shackelford told Allan Shackelford that she wanted to divorce him at least two years before he began a relationship with Anne Lundquist. Their marriage did not break-up because of Anne Lundquist. It ended because of the problems that Allan Shackelford and Cynthia Shackelford created for themselves. But, Cynthia Shackelford was never prepared to look in the mirror and take responsibility for her own mistakes. I know, because I am Allan Shackelford.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

When asked about her husband’s statement, Shackelford said she, “Had absolutely no knowledge of any of these other affairs. We had a great marriage. He was very affectionate. We have two wonderful children. I mean, this is all a shock to me.”<\/p>\n

What happened to Shackelford is horrible, and she probably is<\/em> in shock and isn’t thinking clearly. But just because she thinks the marriage was “great” doesn’t make it so \u2014 it just means her husband was a really good liar. Sleeping with a man you know is married is a shitty thing to do, but someone needs to explain to Shackelford that her husband, not his mistress, is the one who broke a vow to be faithful.<\/p>\n

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Wife’s $9M Message to Mistresses: ‘Lay Off’<\/a> [ABC News]
\nSpurned Spouse Gets Her Due<\/a> [Greensboro News-Record]<\/p>\n

Send an email to Margaret Hartmann, the author of this post, at margaret@jezebel.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a><\/p>\nLisa Wade, PhD<\/a> is an Associate Professor at Tulane University. She is the author of <\/em>American Hookup<\/a>, a book about college sexual culture; a textbook about gender<\/a>; and a forthcoming introductory text: <\/em>Terrible Magnificent Sociology<\/a>.\u00a0You can follow her on Twitter<\/a> and Instagram<\/a>.<\/em><\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Cross-posted at Jezebel. …Good Morning America interviewed Cynthia Shackelford, who won $9 million in a lawsuit against her husband’s mistress last week. When asked what she’d like to tell cheating spouses, Shackelford puts all the blame on other women: My main message is to all those women out there who might have their eyes on […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":51,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[2056,2088,272],"class_list":["post-21959","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-crimelaw","tag-gender-marriagefamily","tag-marriagefamily"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21959","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/51"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21959"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21959\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":71218,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21959\/revisions\/71218"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21959"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21959"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/socimages\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21959"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}