{"id":2586,"date":"2011-04-07T21:27:12","date_gmt":"2011-04-08T02:27:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girlwpen.com\/?p=2586"},"modified":"2011-04-07T21:27:12","modified_gmt":"2011-04-08T02:27:12","slug":"global-mama-in-memoriam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/girlwpen\/2011\/04\/07\/global-mama-in-memoriam\/","title":{"rendered":"GLOBAL MAMA: In Memoriam"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>With a heavy heart, I write in honor of two women who spent much of their time writing and thinking about motherhood.<\/p>\n<p>Two weeks ago, feminist philosopher <strong>Sara Ruddick<\/strong> (1935-2011) passed away.\u00a0 The author of the highly influential <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Maternal-Thinking-Toward-Politics-Peace\/dp\/0807014095\"><em>Maternal Thinking: Toward a Politics of Peace<\/em><\/a>, Professor Ruddick focused attention on the day-to-day activities of mothering (a practice she did not restrict to mothers).\u00a0 In her <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2011\/03\/23\/us\/23ruddick.html\">obituary<\/a>, <em>New York Times<\/em> reporter William Grimes writes that she<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>developed an approach to child-rearing that shifted the focus away from motherhood as a social institution or biological imperative and toward the day-to-day activities of raising and educating a child. This work, she argued, shaped the parent as much as the child, giving rise to specific cognitive capacities and values \u2014 qualities of intellect and soul. Doing shapes thinking, in other words.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>He quotes Andrea O\u2019Reilly, scholar and founder of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.demeterpress.org\/\">Demeter Press<\/a> and the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.motherhoodinitiative.org\/\">Motherhood Initiative for Research and Community Involvement<\/a>, on the impact of Ruddick on the study of motherhood.\u00a0 Professor O\u2019Reilly cites <em>Maternal Thinking<\/em> (along with Adrienne Rich\u2019s <em>Of Woman Born: Motherhood as Experience and Institution<\/em>) as \u201cthe most significant work in maternal scholarship and the new field of motherhood studies.\u201d\u00a0 In 2009, Demeter Press published an edited collection of essays, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Maternal-Thinking-Philosophy-Politics-Practice\/dp\/1550145169\/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1302203888&amp;sr=1-1\">Maternal Thinking: Philosophy, Politics, Practice<\/a>, that explored the impact of Ruddick\u2019s book on maternal scholarship.<\/p>\n<p>Her ideas influenced many fields.\u00a0 On the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.feministlawprofessors.com\/2011\/04\/death-of-sara-ruddick\/\">Feminist Law Professors blog<\/a>, Pace law professor Bridget Crawford writes that Ruddick\u2019s influence \u201cwas seeping into feminist legal theory\u201d and provided the groundwork for much \u201ccontemporary legal scholarship on caretakers and vulnerability.\u201d \u00a0Her loss is felt by many of us who have been deeply influenced by her thinking about mothering.<\/p>\n<p>Although I did not know Sara Ruddick personally, I did know <strong>Jessica Nathanson<\/strong> (1968-2011),\u00a0a contemporary and a Women\u2019s Studies colleague who passed away earlier this week.\u00a0 Jessica was an inspiring human being.\u00a0 She was a smart, creative, and accomplished professor, writer, and blogger, and a generous and committed mother, friend, and activist.\u00a0 She fought breast cancer with an indomitable spirit.<\/p>\n<p>I first met Jessica at the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nwsa.org\/\">National Women\u2019s Studies Association<\/a> Conference, where she was an active member of several groups, including the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.feministmothering.com\/\">Feminist Mothering Caucus<\/a>.\u00a0 She always had an incredibly thoughtful and perceptive answer, whatever the question.\u00a0 (And as a newcomer to the Feminist Mothering Caucus, and later as a co-chair, I asked her many questions.)\u00a0 Over the years, we had several opportunities to talk about mothering, research, creative writing, blogging, teaching, job searching, and trying to fit it all in.\u00a0 But, I now realize, not enough opportunities.\u00a0 Nowhere near enough.<\/p>\n<p>Jessica thought a lot about motherhood, parenting, and work.\u00a0 She co-edited a book with Laura Camille Tuley, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Mother-Knows-Best-Talking-Experts\/dp\/1550144871\"><em>Mother Knows Best: Talking Back to the \u201cExperts,\u201d<\/em><\/a> published by Demeter Press in 2009.\u00a0 Her book gives voice to mothers who contest what \u201cexperts\u201d have to say about motherhood and mothering.\u00a0 I reread her essay this morning and was brought to tears by her voice: smart, honest, and fierce.<\/p>\n<p>Jessica wrote her essay, \u201cWhat Mothers Don\u2019t Say Out Loud: On Putting the Academic Self First,\u201d when her son was 2 \u00bd\u2013a time in her life when she was finishing her dissertation, interviewing for academic positions, and starting her first full-time job as a professor of Women\u2019s Studies and Director of Women\u2019s Studies and the Women\u2019s Resource Center at Augsburg College.\u00a0 In her essay, she writes honestly about the conflict between her need to live an intellectual and creative life, and her need to be close to her young son.\u00a0 She writes movingly about the pull of her body towards her son, about his need (at times his demands) for her body, and about the embodied dimensions of mothering young children: the physical intimacy of hugging, breastfeeding, and simply being near one another.<\/p>\n<p>But she also claims her own need to write, create, and teach.\u00a0 While the \u201cstruggle for a life of the mind\u201d can be difficult and exhausting, it\u2019s also essential. \u00a0The ability to continue creative and intellectual work sustains us; it is what <em>enables us to parent<\/em>.\u00a0 She realizes that<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>If my academic self struggles for a life of the mind, and my mother self is rooted in a contested body, then allowing myself to be an academic mother helps to resolve this split.\u00a0 It also makes me a better mother.\u00a0 Teaching and research give me a creative and intellectual outlet.\u00a0 Because I am engaged in activities that support my selfhood, challenge my intellect, and provide a creative outlet, I can come back to mothering refreshed and energized.\u00a0 If I can live my own life for part of the day and then spend time with him, I can really be with him, and enjoy him, and be a better parent to him.\u00a0 I am not an engaged mother when I don\u2019t have this time.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Her call at the end of the essay speaks to me now, from the moment she wrote down these words to the present moment as I read them, thinking of her and her family and all the people who knew her, learned from her, and loved her.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>We need to speak this truth to ourselves and to each other: the sacrifices involved in motherhood do not need to be complete and self-annihilating.\u00a0 Putting the academic self first is not selfish.\u00a0 It is an honest investment in mothering.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Jessica, you are deeply missed.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>With a heavy heart, I write in honor of two women who spent much of their time writing and thinking about motherhood. 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