{"id":787,"date":"2015-01-01T09:18:50","date_gmt":"2015-01-01T09:18:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/feminist\/?p=787"},"modified":"2015-01-22T18:54:29","modified_gmt":"2015-01-22T18:54:29","slug":"new-year-new-resolve","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/feminist\/2015\/01\/01\/new-year-new-resolve\/","title":{"rendered":"New Year, New Resolve"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The childfree version of Baby New Year?
Image via Flckr CC<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

It\u2019s that time of year. Babies in top hats don sashes and people everywhere resolve to begin anew, to start fresh, to do things differently or more wisely or somehow better.<\/p>\n

I rang in the New Year in much the same way many do \u2013 a little too much drinking, some singing, and of course the obligatory New Year\u2019s kiss. But I\u2019ve always been averse to New Year\u2019s resolutions. Why wait til the New Year to do something you should be doing now?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve got a resolution this year, though. This year I resolve to walk the childfree, feminist talk I\u2019ve been peddling for the last couple of years. You see, my partner Lance and I launched our blog about the childfree choice, we\u2019re {not} having a baby!<\/a>, in early 2013.<\/p>\n

Our goals were simple: to celebrate our choice, celebrate that we live in a time and a place where we have<\/em> a choice, and challenge the many unfounded myths of those of us who choose not to have kids.<\/p>\n

These goals are reflected in our\u00a0w{n}hab! manifesto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"w{n}hab<\/a><\/p>\n

You can see from our conclusion that celebrating is indeed a top priority.<\/p>\n

Beyond celebrating, we wanted to challenge myths. And while I think we\u2019ve done that through a variety of posts including some on challenging the idea that we\u2019ll\u00a0change our minds<\/a>\u00a0and others on the mistaken belief that we\u00a0must hate kids<\/a>, I\u2019m not sure that I\u2019ve challenged myths in my day-to-day life to the extent that I\u2019d like.<\/p>\n

So, this year I resolve to:<\/p>\n

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  1. Apologize less<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    I admit that I do what I have\u00a0criticized<\/a>\u00a0others for doing: I sometimes apologize for my choice not to have kids. Not directly but implicitly. No more. I made the choice that\u2019s right for me. I don\u2019t need to apologize for that choice.<\/p>\n

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    1. Balance more<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Over the last few months I\u2019ve put in an average of about 75 hours of work\/week. That\u2019s nearly double what I\u2019d like to be putting in but when push comes to shove and someone has to do it, I tend to fall on my sword and pick up slack that I might not if I had kids waiting for me at home. But I have a life and a partner at home, both of whom I adore, so I resolve to stop putting work before life. I resolve to take the advice I give to others and just say no when work creeps into the life side of the work\/life equation. I didn\u2019t choose a childfree life so that I could work more. I chose a childfree life because I value solitude, quiet, my partnership, and a zillion activities that I\u2019ve given up in favor of work. No more.<\/p>\n

      This year, more than ever before, I will celebrate my choice. I will celebrate by actually living my life, the life I chose and the life I want to live. I will continue to advocate for work\/life balance for all \u2013 parents and the childfree alike. And I will celebrate that I have a choice. I will celebrate that I have a choice by not apologizing for my choice. And I will do what I can to support efforts that ensure\u00a0that all people\u00a0have a choice. Now\u00a0that<\/em> will be walking my childfree, feminist talk!<\/p>\n

      I’ll drink to that!<\/p>\n

      Another version of this post was published at we’re {not} having a baby!<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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