{"id":2736,"date":"2022-03-22T07:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-03-22T12:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/?p=2736"},"modified":"2022-02-10T11:57:47","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T17:57:47","slug":"women-can-run-the-world-or-at-least-my-city-but-men-continue-to-hide-from-equality-at-home","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/2022\/03\/22\/women-can-run-the-world-or-at-least-my-city-but-men-continue-to-hide-from-equality-at-home\/","title":{"rendered":"Women can run the world (or at least my city) but men continue to hide from equality at home!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Op-ed by Barbara J. Risman<\/em>, Senior Scholar, Council on Contemporary Families<\/em>, Distinguished Professor of Sociology, University of Illinois at Chicago<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In my city of Chicago, our Mayor Lori Lightfoot, is a woman. Dr. Allison Arwady is Chicago\u2019s commissioner for Public Health.\u00a0 Our county commissioner is another woman, Toni Preckwinckle and so is our District Attorney Kim Foxx.\u00a0 Three of the four are women of color.\u00a0 Women run this city, if \u00a0not the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Joyful beautiful young woman in superhero costume posing on sunset background.<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

When I was young you never saw visible women beyond the president of the Temple Sisterhood, or the PTA.\u00a0 Little girls had few role models for living a life beyond domesticity.\u00a0 Much has changed in American society.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I now live in a city where finding a man in charge in public life isn\u2019t easy.\u00a0 Oh yes, the President of the predominantly female teacher\u2019s union.\u00a0 And he\u2019s at the top because, of course, \u00a0white men ride glass escalators to the top.<\/a> \u00a0While much has changed, some things remain the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Still, young girls today have all sorts of role models.  You can be not only a mother or teacher or nurse, but also a successful politician, a doctor, or a lawyer.  You can even be a Vice-President, or run for President, and maybe be the first woman to break that glass ceiling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is all good.  And yet, male privilege refuses to give up the ship. Many of those female teachers and nurses, politicians, doctors and lawyers are suffering disproportionately in the pandemic because mothers retain the primary responsibility for childrearing in our country<\/a>.  And now childrearing has to be done with erratic schooling and day care centers that close for weeks at a time.  No one is to blame for a worldwide pandemic, but the disproportionate disruption suffered by mothers, instead of to all parents, can definitely be blamed on a certain group of people, heterosexual men.  What is wrong with fathers?  It is more than half a century past the first surf that crashed introducing the second wave of feminism and still many men in heterosexual relationships are often deadbeat fathers and husbands even when they stay married to the mother of their children.  Mothers need day care and schools in session face to face to carry on with their lives, and function in their own jobs<\/a>.  But why isn\u2019t that true for fathers as well?   I\u2019ve been studying gender inequality for four decades and I still don\u2019t understand why otherwise good men are not good enough to be egalitarian partners.   And why do otherwise smart and even high earning women put up with such men?  Why don\u2019t the rest of us shame them? Do you know a hetero man who passively lets his equally busy wife handle most of the household labor, including childcare and now online schooling during a pandemic?  How about treating him with as much disapproval as you show to someone refusing a vaccine.  He may not risk killing other people like anti-vaxxers but he sure is disrespecting his own wife and providing a great role model of patriarchal privilege to his kids, both boys and girls.  Isn\u2019t that bad enough to deserve public humiliation?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While little girls are watching all those role models, they notice the women in their lives shouldering a double shift,  earning a living and doing most of the work it takes to keep a family going. Little boys are noticing that once you get married, you have someone to take care of you and your kids.  Great lessons in normalizing male privilege.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As women make progress in the world outside our homes, we all quickly realize that having women in charge doesn\u2019t necessarily make the world a safe or healthy  place.  No one could argue that my city, Chicago, with women running the show, from the city and county chief executives, to the  justice and health systems is any kind of feminist utopia.  Of course, they did inherit systems created and screwed up by men. Do women lead differently, better, then men?  It\u2019s too early to tell.  How would we measure that?  Some research suggests they do,  as women organizational leaders become change agents<\/a>, at least improving women\u2019s status. But  what if women  as a group, are not any better at their jobs then men are?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Isn\u2019t that the point? Women have as much right to run the world as men do, whether or not they do it any better. But my money is on the women leaders in my city doing a better job than the men before them.\u00a0 Hard to do worse.\u00a0 Just as important, men have as much responsibility to care for their children as do women, whether or not they parent any differently. \u00a0Children, and their mothers, deserve no less.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Barbara J. Risman<\/em>, Senior Scholar, Council on Contemporary Families<\/em>, Distinguished Professor of Sociology, University of Illinois at Chicago<\/em>. You can follow them on Twitter @bjrisman<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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