{"id":2706,"date":"2022-02-09T07:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-02-09T13:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/?p=2706"},"modified":"2021-12-09T13:50:44","modified_gmt":"2021-12-09T19:50:44","slug":"hoping-for-a-valentines-day-date-stop-waiting-to-be-asked-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/2022\/02\/09\/hoping-for-a-valentines-day-date-stop-waiting-to-be-asked-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Hoping for a Valentine&#8217;s Day date? Stop waiting to be asked!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>In the 1950s, dating etiquette decreed that the man had to initiate all interactions. Although much has changed since then, many women continue to believe they will end up with a higher quality man if they don&#8217;t appear too eager. You might think the tech savvy women who turn to the internet to search for partners would be less inhibited, but in a recent study using 6 months of online dating data from a midsized Southwestern city (N=8,259 men, 6,274 women), my coauthors and I found that <strong>women send 4 times <em>fewer<\/em> messages than men.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the payoffs for violating older gender conventions are significant. A <strong>woman who initiates a contact is twice as likely to get a favorable response<\/strong> from&nbsp;a potential partner as a man who does so. And women who take the initiative connect with equally desirable partners as women who wait to be asked, without having to wade through a pile of less desirable suitors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>University of Texas sociologist <a href=\"http:\/\/www.utexas.edu\/cola\/centers\/prc\/directory\/faculty\/sec429\">Shannon Cavanagh<\/a> studies online dating and analyzes hundreds of thousands of messages between partners.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Originally printed February 11, 2015 <a href=\"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/2015\/02\/11\/hoping-for-a-valentines-day-date-stop-waiting-to-be-asked\/\">https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/2015\/02\/11\/hoping-for-a-valentines-day-date-stop-waiting-to-be-asked\/<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In the 1950s, dating etiquette decreed that the man had to initiate all interactions. Although much has changed since then, many women continue to believe they will end up with a higher quality man if they don&#8217;t appear too eager. You might think the tech savvy women who turn to the internet to search for [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2124,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2706","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2706","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2124"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2706"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2706\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2709,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2706\/revisions\/2709"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2706"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2706"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2706"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}