{"id":241,"date":"2015-02-11T13:56:56","date_gmt":"2015-02-11T13:56:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/families\/?p=241"},"modified":"2015-02-11T13:56:56","modified_gmt":"2015-02-11T13:56:56","slug":"hoping-for-a-valentines-day-date-stop-waiting-to-be-asked","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/2015\/02\/11\/hoping-for-a-valentines-day-date-stop-waiting-to-be-asked\/","title":{"rendered":"Hoping for a Valentine&#8217;s Day date? Stop waiting to be asked!"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_242\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-242\" style=\"width: 168px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/families\/files\/2015\/02\/dating.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-242\" src=\"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/families\/files\/2015\/02\/dating-300x213.jpg\" alt=\"Via wikimedia commons, credit Bunyanchad.\" width=\"168\" height=\"120\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-242\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Via wikimedia commons, credit Bunyanchad.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>In the 1950s, dating etiquette decreed that the man had to initiate all interactions. Although much has changed since then, many women continue to believe they will end up with a higher quality man if they don&#8217;t appear too eager. You might think the tech savvy women who turn to the internet to search for partners would be less inhibited, but in a recent study using 6 months of online dating data from a midsized Southwestern city (N=8,259 men, 6,274 women), my coauthors and I found that <strong>women send 4 times <em>fewer<\/em> messages than men. <\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But the payoffs for violating older gender conventions are significant. A <strong>woman who initiates a contact is twice as likely to get a favorable response<\/strong> from\u00a0a potential partner as a man who does so. And women who take the initiative connect with equally desirable partners as women who wait to be asked, without having to wade through a pile of less desirable suitors.<\/p>\n<p><em>University of Texas sociologist <a href=\"http:\/\/www.utexas.edu\/cola\/centers\/prc\/directory\/faculty\/sec429\">Shannon Cavanagh<\/a> studies online dating and analyzes hundreds of thousands of messages between partners.<br \/>\n<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In the 1950s, dating etiquette decreed that the man had to initiate all interactions. Although much has changed since then, many women continue to believe they will end up with a higher quality man if they don&#8217;t appear too eager. You might think the tech savvy women who turn to the internet to search for [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1903,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[8959,55,3193],"class_list":["post-241","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-families","tag-gender","tag-online-dating"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/241","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1903"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=241"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/241\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2707,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/241\/revisions\/2707"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=241"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=241"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=241"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}