{"id":2013,"date":"2019-06-11T05:38:17","date_gmt":"2019-06-11T10:38:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/?p=2013"},"modified":"2019-06-11T05:38:17","modified_gmt":"2019-06-11T10:38:17","slug":"more-people-than-ever-arent-having-babies-and-theyre-doing-just-fine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/2019\/06\/11\/more-people-than-ever-arent-having-babies-and-theyre-doing-just-fine\/","title":{"rendered":"More People Than Ever Aren\u2019t Having Babies. And They\u2019re Doing Just Fine."},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>You\u2019re selfish. You\u2019ll die alone. You\u2019re not a real woman. As a woman who has opted out of parenthood, I\u2019ve heard it all. In my new book released today, CHILDFREE BY CHOICE<\/a>, I set the record straight, analyzing data from my interviews with 70 childfree women and men, others\u2019 work, and my own experience. I investigate the history and current growing movement of adults choosing not to have kids, considering what this cultural shift means for our society, economy, environment, perceived gender roles, and legacies.<\/p>\n

Today in the United States, one in six women will end her childbearing years without ever having given birth. Half of millennials don\u2019t yet have children and it remains to be seen how many ever will. What at first glance appears to be the very personal question of whether to have kids has become a matter of public concern and political debate. We\u2019ve seen the letters to advice columnists lamenting the pressure to give parents grandchildren, heard the cries of \u201cYou\u2019ll regret it!\u201d from well-meaning friends and relatives, and seen the name-calling (\u201cSelfish!\u201d \u201cStupid!\u201d \u201cShallow!\u201d) from observers online.<\/p>\n

Despite the negative buzz surrounding them, 94 percent of childfree adults in my own study said they gave careful thought to their choice not to become parents. As Sarah, a childfree partnered psychiatrist in her 30s told me<\/a>, \u201cI actually think that most people who have children don\u2019t even think about it, they just have them\u2026most people just go for it and don\u2019t give it much thought. Go for what\u2019s next. \u2018I got married, now I have to have kids.\u2019 \u2026 I think there\u2019s more thinking to decide to not have children.\u201d<\/p>\n

Further, while the stereotype tells us that all childfree people hate children, over a quarter of participants in my study chose careers \u2013 such as teaching, social work, and pediatrics \u2013 that involve work with children. As Susan, a childfree camp director in her 50s shared, \u201cI had a lot of experience at being with children at various stages. And I enjoyed it, I loved it, but I said to myself, \u2018There are way too many kids out there that don\u2019t have someone to look after them and don\u2019t have someone to be an advocate for them.\u2019 And I felt that I could be that person.\u201d<\/p>\n

Other research<\/a> shows that 80 percent of non-mothers play an active role in children\u2019s lives. And when compared to parents, childfree people report higher marital satisfaction, lower rates of depression, and similar rates of civic engagement. In short, childfree people are happy, engaged singles and couples who have carved out meaningful lives for themselves. Understanding and supporting their choice means better outcomes for families, children, parents, and nonparents alike.<\/p>\n

I explore these and other in my new book released today from Dutton.<\/p>\n

Amy Blackstone is a professor in Sociology and the Margaret Chase Smith Policy Center at the University of Maine. \u00a0She is author of\u00a0<\/span><\/span>Childfree by Choice<\/span><\/span><\/a>: The Movement Redefining Family and Creating a New Age of Independence (Dutton, 2019). Amy and her husband Lance blog at\u00a0<\/span><\/span>we’re {not} having a baby!<\/span><\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/span> <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You\u2019re selfish. You\u2019ll die alone. You\u2019re not a real woman. As a woman who has opted out of parenthood, I\u2019ve heard it all. In my new book released today, CHILDFREE BY CHOICE, I set the record straight, analyzing data from my interviews with 70 childfree women and men, others\u2019 work, and my own experience. I […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2095,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[38845],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2013","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-new-work"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2013","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2095"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2013"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2013\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2015,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2013\/revisions\/2015"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2013"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2013"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thesocietypages.org\/ccf\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2013"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}