Worse, the actor who played Carter had said in an interview he lost his virginity at 13 to a drunken 19 year old who forced herself on him at a party and it had a lasting effect. How as a writer do you ask an actor to relive that and be laughed at for it?

I actually saw this piece of crap in the theater. Got up and walked out when Vaughn’s character started talking about what happened and people in the audience starting laughing. can’t decide if people are stupid or sick.

“I think race doesn’t really play a role here.”

I disagree. Stereotypes of the “animalistic” sex drive of the black male still persist. Its likely that plays into why this Kimmel douche thinks its funny to mock the rape of an 11-year-old black boy. It is true that similar stereotypes exist for men in general (how many times have we heard some moron joke about a male student victim of older female teachers thinking its great, etc.), however, I think it’s a bad idea to overlook the race element.

I also know two men who were sexually assaulted by women at a young age, and both were traumatized by the experience. I too feel for Lil Wayne to have been forced to relate his story on national television and have it trivialized. I think this reflects a lack of acknowledgment in mainstream society that 1) men can be raped by women and 2) losing your virginity is not always voluntary. With the second point, I’ve often felt the inquiry into someone’s virginity status is intertwined with privilege, as well as race and class (and gender, of course).

It was still communism in our country, he knew nothing about sex at that age. He was shattered, shocked, kept it as a shameful secret (as opposed to boys bragging to each other) and could not share what worried him even to his own brother. Even now, when grown-up, he doesn’t tell this story to anyone, and if he did, nobody would consider him a victim.

I’m not sure if he ever changed his ways, but last I heard he had become a professional youth counselor.

Elo: I happen to know plenty of women who prefer the powerful, challenging, and confrontational sounds of a hard electric guitar over acoustic softness, but those women are a lot more intimidating to many men. When a guy stops his fierce jams and picks up a mellow acoustic guitar to woo the ladies, I think it means he’s trying to attract a certain kind.

The chocolate-and-roses romantic schtick is more associated with traditional courtship which is intended to lead to long term commitment and ultimately marriage, whereas hard-core rocking and rolling women are just as likely to kick the guy out of bed in the morning as vice-versa (and men don’t appreciate being used like that! It’s appalling!). But hard-core women are double-standard branded as slutty, so when it’s time to attract a lady (the kind they can introduce to mom) they break out the acoustic. They also probably think women believe a guy who plays love songs on an acoustic guitar would be more ‘romantic’ and less prone to love-em-and-leave-em. None of this is necessarily true, but that is often the case with what motivates our behavior.

You see these reactions every time a story comes up about a teacher who had sex with a student of hers – reactions that would never come up if the genders were reversed.