Comments on: Lesbianism: Not Just for Women Any More

By: Clara

Clara — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 20:01:29 +0000

Lesbianism has always been a different category than gays. Because lesbianism is in heterosexual porn, it almost had an in to some sort of (warped) acceptance, both by guys who get turned on by it, and by women who do and tolerate it. (I’m not saying all straight men and women are like that however.) And the video is purely towards straight men, lesbians may find the women hot – but the video is directed towards men. Look at the stilettos and how each woman looks either at the camera and the viewer or away into space – very rarely at the other woman.

As for the picture, Sylvia has a point in that the heavy make-up (and long fingernails) isn’t a typical lesbian attractive point – there are those who like it, but it isn’t a very general thing. The list of Ellen’s Top 100 is a great point. A nice thing about being a lesbian is your girlfriend understands completely how much time goes into make-up and appearance and can also appreciate you better without any of that because that is what she goes through. However, it IS two girls – which is hot, in a slightly awkward way, because they don’t quite come across as gay.

The Sweet or Spicy site is a hook-up site in my opinon. Any site that starts out with a picture of two people starting to ‘get it on’ so to speak, and not trying to be in a relationship or learn to love the other – doesn’t really seem like a dating site.

By: Sylvia

Sylvia — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 03:45:13 +0000

No way is that picture from Spicy or Sweet aimed at actual lesbians. (If it is supposed to be, they need to fire their advertising consultants.) In general, lesbians have different ideals of beauty than straight men and I have *never* seen a picture of two girls that heavily made up in such a passive pose without thinking “Bullshit-they’re straight.” I could try to describe the general cultural concept within lesbian culture of who we are attracted to, but easier would be to check out AfterEllen.com’s Sexiest 100 women at http://www.afterellen.com/people/2008/6/hot100. This list is a bit different from male-selected lists.

A general rule of thumb? Lesbians tend to be attracted to strong female characters or images, especially those that suggest (without girl-on-girl action) that the woman might be gay. But then again, my wife points out that I don’t speak for everyone.

By: NL

NL — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 21:10:54 +0000

I’ve been intrigued that dating sites, in general, try to appeal so much more to men — my understanding is that there are far more men on dating sites than women. Maybe they are more likely to pay the monthly fees.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 16:29:14 +0000

Oh, dear. Because society needed MORE excuses to take lesbians less-than-seriously. Too many young lesbians and bisexual women are considered man-tempters or liars when they try to come out (at least, when I was a lesbian*, some people told me that I wanted to call attention unto myself; I couldn’t truthfully be gay).

And why use a White Stripes song for something this damaging?!

*I identify as male now, and I try to be respectful of lesbian culture/spaces. It’s kind of hard, coming from that community myself; but I think all males should try to keep out of lesbian-specific things.